To The Young Virgin Red Pillers: Give It Time

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medicineandsports · 2019-07-29T09:21:36+00:00

I wish all young men had this type of honest guidance and support

massivewang · 2019-07-29T10:09:04+00:00

Hard work over time pays off.

When I TRPed at 27 I was fucking pissed, disgusted, distraught, frustrated, etc. I spent ten years as a people pleasing overly zealous evangelical Christian, 10-15 hours a week doing religious activity. I thought during this time I was improving myself and becoming a man, but in reality I did nothing to address the underlying issues. I thought I had wasted my life and was overwhelemd by the ugly truth that it might take years to turn my life around.

With that said after about three years all of the anger and disgust faded away because I turned my shit around. I am in the best spot I’ve ever been physically, emotionally, and financially. Some of the improvements came quickly (lost 30 lbs in three months). Others took more time (saying no, building boundaries, etc).

Seven years after word I really can’t believe where I’m at, it’s a complete 180 from who I was. It’s a bit strange to think about it. I’m not chad the destroyer rich and famous confident superstar, but I’m way fucking better than I was.

In finance there’s the commonly discussed principal of compound interest. Meaning that when you invest, the way interest accumulates allows your investment growth to far outpace what you’ve contributed ( I.e. 5,000 a year over 30 years is only $150,000 but you can potentially end up with $1,000,000 by the end of that time period). I believe that other areas in life “compound” as well when you put in consistent effort.

To sum it up, don’t give up. It may take a year or five years, but it will come. And once it starts coming it won’t stop.

Good luck and keep your head up!

semaxX · 2019-07-29T09:35:19+00:00

And even if it takes more time... A) You cant force it anyway B) Sex shouldnt be your only/biggest goal in life C) Life should be interesting enough to distract you from not having sex most of the time

Emit_M · 2019-07-29T10:48:09+00:00

Any tips for a 19yr old with no social life or friends at all

Cryptoguru777 · 2019-07-29T11:30:31+00:00

Good to see somebody giving words of encouragement. Men need so little to encourage them, yet can mean so much.

God bless you sir.

SmokeyFiend58 · 2019-07-29T13:06:12+00:00

I got lucky with a few lays when I was younger. Looking back they were "fools checkmates" learning and looking after yourself is really important.

foomasters · 2019-07-29T11:40:38+00:00

Roosh V, recommended in cases of emergency, every 6 months to get an escort. Doing this, you take sex off the pedestal, and you stop feeling sexually frustrated. Eventually, you'll want a quality woman in your life for LTR rather than a low quality woman to put your dick in anyway.

generalissimo_jones · 2019-07-29T20:45:49+00:00

Honestly some of the younger TRPers may just lack necessary physical attributes to make the cut with today's women. I might be one of the older guys here being in my 30's and having first got into red pill thinking and PUA and other stuff over 15 years ago. I feel like i have seen this movement coalesce and i remember back in the early 00's learning about the 80-20 rule when i was in highschool. Since then Tinder and smartphones and social media have happened. I think we have more of a 90-10 or a 95-5 rule these days.

Just keep in mind "the game" is more fierce. The quality of goods on offer in the sexual market place has never been lower. It will be a lot harder for you young guys than it was for men my age. I just went and banged a hooker a few times to get it out of my system when i was young. Emptying your balls clears your head. Especially when your hormones are screaming at you in your teenage years. The pressure with a hooker is a lot lower and honestly some women get funny about virgins.

By all means keep going for your own sakes. There is so much more to life than women.

enterim · 2019-07-29T13:35:36+00:00

He is right. I would also add that sex is overrated in your head as long as you are virgin. It will not change your life.

I was sexless until I was 21 as well. I think my first kiss was at 21 as well. But once I got my first time out of the way it was like something switched and I hadn't had any problems having sex since then. Just keep working. It will take some time, but once you see results, your sex life will change without the need of you focussing on it.

Math_3 · 2019-07-29T13:38:39+00:00

I needed to read this, thank you.

ugluk1 · 2019-07-29T16:09:24+00:00

The most important thing is to refuse to become a beta orbiter. Move on, ignore the cunt.

420KUSHBUSH · 2019-07-29T14:47:42+00:00

Realized this myself a few weeks ago. Truly well said

L3onard3 · 2019-07-29T15:03:04+00:00

...started looking at the world through red lenses...

The blue pill is the lense...TRP is unfiltered truth.

Nice post.

Roto2esdios · 2019-07-29T15:18:28+00:00

If you are so anxious about sex go to a sex worker. Sex is not THAT great. What it's great is being economic independent. Doing shit you like without money stoping you from doing it.

Sex is so so low in pleasure compared to other great things that last in time you would start to see women like little things with little to offer to you.

And remember, sex is not what defines your worth in this life.

Shadows1455 · 2019-07-29T11:56:33+00:00

You're 100% right, I'm kinda like the 19 yo you but I will give it time

CyberXydra11 · 2019-07-29T12:32:38+00:00

Okay, but is it okay to lose virginity to the prostitute, and see that sex isn't that bih thing, and it shouldn't be your main goal?

AllThatJack · 2019-07-29T15:42:07+00:00

When you’ve realized the journey your on is about a quality life you’ve arrived. The rest will fall in place.

Nighthawkdragon8 · 2019-07-29T18:27:05+00:00

I’d say read less go out more. Approach more women.

throwlaca · 2019-07-29T18:52:35+00:00

This is something you have to drill into your head. Look at the SMV curve. Its lowest when you are young and highest when you are 40-45. Yes, at 50 its still high. I was a virgin nerd and my RP father would tell me that "Wait until you are 30, girls will start flooding". He was right. Now I'm 40, I barely lift and I can pick up girls almost effortlessly.

Just wait. Give it time.

NathanHollister · 2019-07-29T21:09:40+00:00

You gotta convince yourself not to care too much really. Going out and hitting on 20 girls a day is tiring and often doesn't work. Just talk to the girls you naturally meet in the course of your day and you'll be good.

I.e. don't be outcome dependent. Go to the bar to have a good time, not to get laid. If you happen to meet a hot girl there, go for it. But If you go to get laid you probably won't and it will cause mental stress which reduces your success.

pseudon_ · 2019-07-29T14:52:01+00:00

Give it time? No. Be actively trying instead of hoping something will come to you

Bry--Guy · 2019-07-29T17:03:46+00:00

Thank you brother. I really needed advice like this recently.

Reenas54 · 2019-07-30T05:55:35+00:00

I think i was like 20 and virgin when discovered menosphere. I think first phase was mgtow and i was like: fuck yeah, i don't need them. Later i was interested into pua and how to seduce women. Then was redpill phase where i was interested in building value. Now i'd say i'm somewhere in the middle of redpill and mgtow. Lost my virginity at 23 and then it happened... When it rains it pours. Once you break that point there becomes no secret how to play and communicate with women. Now i'm in mid 20's, have some fwb's/fuck buddies, but in the end when we are done with sex i want them to gtfo. Yeah, pussy is enjoyable, but not so that it would be worth my peace and quiet. Every vagina is same and rarely worth the time spent on it. Do lifting, do reading, do whatever do you want, but do it all for yourself. If you do that purely only for vagina you will be really disapointed.

Sad_Sleeper · 2019-07-30T16:13:04+00:00

Was a virgin until 26, managed to get in a relationship with an older Girl, 28 at the time. Found out that i had problem with my dick(short frenulum), after the surgery we didn't have sex. I was a bluepilled beta and got too obsessed about her. 6 months later she dumped me and went for her best male friend. She is now 30 and hit the wall hard(smoking, lack of sleep inparopriate loose of weight with fatburner and big cloric deficit). This was my revelation and i went into an anger phase. And i dogged a massive bullet.

I have went through some shit, lost my job because i was too distracted with all the drama that this "woman" made. Decided to take a break from work and didn't work for 2.5 months. Focused on myself, working out, meditating, learning new things, skiing during the week. Landed my current job in february and doing great.

After the breakup started reading more about TRP, was visiting the seduction reddit alot. Switched to Redpill. In November managed to kiss a girl a few hours after we've met, i could've f-closed but she was having alot of issues and didn't happen. Fucked her in february after seeing eachother in a Bar. I was completly sober, she was drunk.

Fucked her a few times, but she wanted serious stuff, so things didn't work out.

Continued improving and i managed to loose 6kgs. Signed in for boxing classes, also i've been doing Folk dance classes since September.Somehow i've grown up and everyone is saying that i am more mature now.One of my best friends is Redpill but not redpill aware and he is helping me alot, he sees that i got the potential, so he gives me advices on everything, also he is helping me change my wardrobe.This has been crucual, because having someone give you guidance in life is a really good thing, it helps you grow alot.

Stared noticing the glances of the girls when i pass by. All the shit and how the world works. I got the nerdy look Glasses and full beard, but i am well groomed and well dressed.

I know this is just the beginning and better things will happen later on.

There is one really good quote from a Don Diablo song:If you work hard and believe, the universe will always help you, to catch your dreams!

Keep grinding. keep lifting and doing what you love. Everything else will come into place sooner or later.

420KUSHBUSH · 2019-07-29T22:53:14+00:00

Something less stated overall is that women now that grew up in the social media age are much more lacking in social skills and as awkward as any other guy

With that being said though their standards are higher now than ever before. Truth does not make the world go round, perception does

gyagu · 2019-07-31T03:36:11+00:00

What if you dropped out, live with your mom, and are mentally ill despite otherwise having a lot of value but no self confidence

UngovernableYxB · 2019-08-01T17:49:44+00:00

Thanks man. I needed this. My journey is just really beginning now. I'm not really too concerned with losing my vcard asap. I wanna lose it when its meaningful, some random fuck and chuck.

noobish_senpai · 2019-08-15T18:07:13+00:00

I found this subreddit today and I feel a slight shift in my mindset. I'll make sure to read everything in the sidebar and to implement as many advices and information into my life. I won't lie, I've and still am (for the moment) a fucking blue pill. Upon reading the posts I am starting to feel more and more enraged. Not with the world or society, but with my very self. Ive already found very useful information and I will make sure to become my best self.

With regards

someonesopinion6969 · 2019-07-29T11:29:53+00:00

this is some pussy ass shit.

get fucking laid,

i was an ugly little boy and i still managed to get my dick wet.

if the trp doesn't help you get laid nothing will, stop jerking off, stop living in fantasy land, talk to some girls, get a little aggressive, you only have one life. spending it digesting books wont change nothing about how much pussy you get, it's about being a man and getting it.

yes you will get rejected, yes you will feel like shit, yes you will face all kinds of horrible shit.

books don't confront you with those horrors, real life does

Jesusfeminist · 2019-07-29T20:27:07+00:00

I disagree, you aren’t getting laid because you aren’t putting enough effort into getting laid. Getting better at all this other shit isn’t gonna make girls fall right on your dick. YOU NEED TO GO OUT AND HUNT FOR PUSSY

UpperRedSide · 2019-07-29T14:50:43+00:00

No you’re tripping dude, this is some feel good bullshit

I lost my virginity at 12 to a 15 year old girl before TRP even existed

Nineteen is too long to wait to get laid

You need to fuck some bitches, not “give it time.” Times already up dude, get it in!

Xchromqueen · 2019-07-30T00:31:06+00:00

But why does this even have to be discuss? Why do men care about sex so much that we get people like incels? Like don’t you want to keep your virginity for your wife or something?

I honestly don’t get the big deal. Sex is sex. Nothing special about it

masterpiece00 · 2019-07-29T09:45:45+00:00

Not really man, about 0.3 percent of men here will be apart of the 20 percent of men fucking high smv young women. A hard fact but it's how the game is set up.

And being kissless at 19 doesn't really seem like a good person to take advice on sexual strategy from.