Betrayed...

blasted_biscuits · 2017-04-25T14:52:46+00:00

Now is the time to go stoic and display nothing but indifference towards her. You can be burning up inside but to her you are calm and uncaring. Constantly reframe this as a good thing in your mind as much as you can. It will be hard at first but a few months from now you will see that it actually is a good thing. Give yourself time to grieve over the loss of the relationship but don't let it consume you. Don't ever let her see that she hurt you. Focus on your son and don't say anything bad about his mom. These things will all pay dividends down the road, trust in that.

skittles_man · 2017-04-25T14:39:06+00:00

Chin up, my man.

Look at it this way: You're now free to pursue other women, pursue your hobbies and interests, save money to do cool shit with your son. I can tell you right now, it will not workout with this other dude. It never does. That being said, when she comes crawling back, you DO NOT take her back. She's going to throw some heavy emotional shit your way with your son and she'll try and convince you/shame you into getting back together for the sake of your family. You do not fold, you do not waver. You set an example for your son on what it is to be a man. She's made her grave, now she shall lie in it.

You'll look back on this and realize that this was a divine gift.

spurdsy · 2017-04-25T13:16:09+00:00

There was signs, you missed them.

Or, maybe you'll never know.

Either way, funny how guys have to actually get fucked over before they start listening to what thousands of guys keep telling them. We are a stupid, ego invested creature.

Roaring40sUK · 2017-04-25T14:33:53+00:00

hamsterd fucking hard and made me sound like a bad guy

She was laying the ground work in her mind for a branch swing.. same thing happened to me..

dRePe_Thill · 2017-04-25T15:42:02+00:00

A key message for guys to learn here is: trust your gut. If you think something is wrong then there is a 99% chance there is. The more stongly she accuses you of being "controlling" or "ridiculous", the more likely it is she that she is already cheating.

BusterVadge · 2017-04-25T14:37:18+00:00

Women ALWAYS line up another relationship before ending one. AWALT. Sorry you had to learn the lesson the hard way.

pcsubliminal · 2017-04-25T14:21:10+00:00

I went through a similar experience not too long ago. If I could go back in time to when I first found out, I'd do a couple of things differently. What it comes down to is I'd basically just "move on" and not give her the pleasure of seeing this upset me, which then justifies her actions in the first place. Simply ghost her and focus on improving yourself.

Thebeatzmaker · 2017-04-25T16:52:47+00:00

Thank you for letting your fellow brothers know.

AWALT. Even when she has a kid.

Landry86 · 2017-04-25T14:59:04+00:00

This was hard to read. She sounds horrible. I'm sorry.

MattyAnon · 2017-04-25T15:45:06+00:00

then all of a sudden its over she tells me and that i had done too many bad things in the past

This is to blame you for her finding someone else.

So she tell me she wants to be alone

Alone with someone else.

She hamsterd fucking hard and made me sound like a bad guy and i was like wtf i am not perfect but im not a bad guy.. i thought it was some feminits power shit she got in her head.

Women universally blameshift.

i actually accepted that red pill was real but i was still in denial about my own ex partner..

Until you believe AWALT you have not accepted the red pill. No exceptions.

attack_goat · 2017-04-26T14:03:36+00:00

I wouldn't have posted a comment on this, except for your last line: "... eyes are too sore from abusing the hamster via text."

No. Stop now. If you can't talk to your ex without abusing her then don't talk to her. And if you can't text your ex without abusing her then don't text - texts can be saved and used against you.

Your relationship didn't work out; this is not the end of the world. You invested a lot in her and have a right to feel angry. But no matter what, you are going to raising a kid in partnership with her until he is 18 or whenever, so you have to be civil to each other. Get a grip on your anger ASAP or you will say something that will come back to haunt you, and could very well damage your relationship with your son.

Take the high road, to whatever extent you can at this point.

Good luck with this new chapter in your life.

princeali97 · 2017-04-25T18:03:52+00:00

A friend of mine told me that my LTR of a year and a half was hanging out with other dudes.

I knew something was up as a month ago wed be having sex almost daily and we had pretty much stopped a couple weeks ago. She was acting very sexually distant but wanted me to take her out more.

Yesterday she said she was working and hanging out with a female friend. A friend of mine lives near her and said a dude went inside her house and then he took a pic of them leaving.

I texted her and told her we were done and Id be getting my stuff from her house the next day.

Reading this helped me know Im not alone and we all get our shit fucked up by women. Thank you.

akaNeon1 · 2017-04-25T13:22:05+00:00

I honestly wouldn't know what I would do if I caught my partner/wife/girlfriend of 8 years, that I have a child with, cheating IN MY HOUSE.

I'm not a violent person, but I don't know if I could keep myself from fucking killing both those motherfuckers.

So props to you for not becoming a murderer. Stay strong man.

Jaereth · 2017-04-25T18:27:29+00:00

so i decided to tell my son that she was moving to be closer to his grandmar. (Dont want him to blame her) .

Don't do this.

My mom and dad split up before I could even remember. My whole life, living with my mom, visiting my dad every other weekend. My dad paid the support too.

When I was little, my mom would constantly tell me stories about what a loser my dad was. All this fucking shit. My mom was also a notorious alcoholic in our town and did a pretty shitty job raising me. Not the worst, not abusive or anything, but not good either. (Once I grew up and realized what "good" was)

During this time, my dad never had a foul word to say about my mom. My stepmom sure did, but my dad didn't. This always made me believe my mom's bullshit. This made me feel my dad was ashamed or something.

And of course my mom gave me the lines of bullshit like "We decided we didn't want to be together anymore" and shit like that.

Fast forward thirty years. I've come to acquire the knowledge of what happened there. I'm pretty sure my mom was getting "involved" with at least two other guys in that time frame. I know my dad beat the piss out of one at a bar once. The second, well, it was someone from his neighborhood and I think at that point he just gave up on turning a ho into a housewife and cut his losses.

I really wish, all those years, my dad would have just been honest with me with what happened. Me and my dad have a o.k. relationship but it's not great. Now that's partly his fault for not making me a priority in his life, but I always look back to those feelings of shock that I had.

After all my childhood of my mom talking shit about my dad, and my dad being altogether stoic about it, I felt so much shock when I actually found out SHE was the problem in that relationship. SHE was the one that treated HIM with zero dignity or respect. And at that point, who wouldn't tell him to get rid of her. After her he remarried, had two more kids, and still lives happily with his second wife.

I just wish I had been told the truth and not have it sugar coated as to what's going on. If a kid's parent is a miserable person well they will get through it. In my opinion, the wife/mother in these situations doesn't deserve to have their kids hold them in high esteem anymore because they broke up a fucking family for Christ's sake.

Just my opinion, but it's something i've done some deep reflection on in my life and all things considered, I probably would have went to live with my dad when I was a kid had I known what type of person they both really were instead of the "let's keep it civil in front of the kid" bullshit narrative I got (Which my mom forgot to adhere too anyway, imagine that)

Flash-Lightning · 2017-04-25T18:57:22+00:00

Welcome home. You have to be burned before you can heal. Best advice going forward is to lift. Don't drink, look to sports leagues and healthy eating and living. Once your brain has readjusted to a normal state and you start looking at YOUR happiness, you'll see how fucked up you've lived. Myself I was 5 years in a relationship and 2 years with her cheating and never saw it coming. Now I lift and I live how I want to. Still have a long path to travel on but I am seriously much happier.

SanjayMethylPump · 2017-04-25T15:54:08+00:00

The worst part is how your son's life is affected...make sure she doesn't spread lies about you. Be a good role model....make him have a happy childhood. My mother spread lies about my father when I was younger. There was a time I didn't even spoke to him, until I started asking questions

SanjayMethylPump · 2017-04-25T16:41:24+00:00

She hamsterd fucking hard and made me sound like a bad guy and i was like wtf i am not perfect but im not a bad guy.

I have experienced this first hand. They tend to do that right before they cheat on you. A woman will convince herself and probably her close friend that you are a horrible person and she is not doing anything wrong by choosing to pursue her happiness (in the form of a new cock).

meninistMD · 2017-04-25T20:58:31+00:00

I have a women, a roommate, who moved in a room I am renting about two days ago, she broke up with her boyfriend who she was living with 5 years, just a week ago, second day here and a friend visit her. women are no angels.

MisterRoid · 2017-04-25T15:20:32+00:00

The next step is to make sure that your son is actually yours. Don't take it for granted and risk paying for another man's child like a real beta loser.

nicetimeisback · Tue Apr 25 13:15:53 2017 UTC

sorry about your story.

nothing sad on an ltr to end up like this (it just happen, it's natural), but when there are sons in the game it's bad, because they (children) are the one that pay for it.

wish you the best

[deleted] · 2017-04-25T14:28:48+00:00

Well the good news is you are in the right place. Lots of guys on TRP have similar stories. Now you have the resources to guide you through the shitty process (maintaining frame, listening to her actions not her words, dusting yourself off to go get some strange if you haven't already). You'll have to try and focus on logic for a while as your ex will be pulling your strings to get an emotional reaction as the first step toward her manipulation du juor. It's a shit process and she will go out her way to maximize the shittiness you will experience. Over time you'll reach a balance and it'll all be fine. I know lots of divorced dudes who love their children and are amicable with their exes (now, they weren't at first of course). Thanks for sharing.

Eydtkuhnen · 2017-04-26T06:08:11+00:00

I am really sorry for you.

Don't understand how mean-spirited, terrible a person can be (men and women), when there is a child involved. I would never ever do that in front of my child. It's so egotistical.

RedDespair · 2017-04-25T15:20:22+00:00

One question.

Did she frequently shit tested you before the break up?

Brennus390 · 2017-04-25T18:08:10+00:00

It's not betrayal when they were never loyal to begin with.

Velebit · 2017-04-25T20:17:21+00:00

at least you have a son and not a daughter otherwise her disloyal female genes would pass onto the daughter

hc84 · 2017-04-25T16:27:23+00:00

i thought it was some feminits power shit she got in her head.

It seems that modern feminism is about selfishness, and valuing self above all others. It's kinda sad, actually.

Ontop1 · 2017-04-25T16:41:25+00:00

You need to take yourself off her leash. I hope you just found this sudReddit. It definitely sounds like you don't understand the teachings.

It's not cool to abuse anyone. I have definitely lashed out because of betrayal. I felt horrible about being the monster she made. Don't let her pull your puppet strings.

menial_optimist · 2017-04-25T18:14:11+00:00

It's strange. My friend has been with his woman for 5 years, 2.5 now of that has been in marriage, 5 months now their first child. They seem inseparable. I get the distinct feeling she needs him way more than he needs her. Still, I cannot even fathom her cheating on him but I read stories like this here and it almost seems inevitable.

newName543456 · 2017-04-25T19:34:54+00:00

Two key sidebar takeaways:

She's not yours, it's just your turn.
Briffault's law. And even one step further - not only your past achievements won't count for the future, history will be rewritten, when it doesn't fit her agenda.

ncturne · 2017-04-25T21:21:20+00:00

Always trust your gut. Always.

kyledontcare · 2017-04-25T22:28:32+00:00

Drop her and move on, friend; women can't make you happy. You find it yourself. Grow as a person; advance in your work; save money and let me encourage you to seek God, as well. No friend like Jesus.

SanjayMethylPump · 2017-04-25T23:02:40+00:00

Haha. How typical of cunts. She was set off by something and met Mr. Musclecock at work and then made sure the branch was sturdy enough (6 months of workplace dating and sex) and then once she realized, she made the jump. Typical, unfortunate, but typical bullshit.

One day your son will learn the truth. Just be there for him and be a good father, and for the love of all that is holy, NEVER try to sway him or involve him in the drama. Just be a good, available and strong father figure for him.

Let me tell you something my brudda. Every, damn, thing on TRP is true when it comes to women. Every, damn thing. If she hasn't shown you it yet, it's because you haven't seen the real her yet.

DatingCoach111 · 2017-04-25T23:16:43+00:00

We've all been through similar experiences. We've all had that one woman, "The Man Maker", who introduced us to the reality of our world. Embrace the pain. Fighting it will only reinforce it. When you come out the other end stronger and more resilient, come back and read these comments to realize how far you've come. The pain you are currently enduring is the best thing that will ever happen to you.

Kommanderdude · 2017-04-25T16:16:19+00:00

DNA test asap. Your son may very well be the other guys.

BRISCO53 · 2017-04-25T15:36:20+00:00

Sorry to hear that brother just pick yourself back up. That's what Alphas do we learn, adapt, and overcome the shit that women put us through.

askmrcia · 2017-04-25T16:43:58+00:00

I sad for you, but at the same time, realize your story is extremely common and its brought most users here.

I'm saying this because I don't want you thinking of doing something stupid like choke the girl, stalk her or kill the work guy. This shit literally happens all the time. Good thing you're here so you can see similar stories and learn to grow from it. And was never yours, just your turn.

grewapair · 2017-04-25T16:57:36+00:00

My mom did the same thing. Once the youngest kid is six, they'll be in school for most of the day and your wife doesn't need you any more.

So she tosses the guy out for her Chad. Thanks, sucker!

epubliusrex · 2017-04-25T18:56:34+00:00

Too many posts to worry if this has been said but, dude, when she stopped arguing with you, that's when she started fucking the other guy.

The thing is, is you either control the relationship from the beginning or you don't ever control it. The child was a mistake if you were fighting. Time to bail is before the child comes along. Now your son gets to see and hear mommy getting banged by other dudes and he's going to grow up fucked. And your money supply is fucked.

Anytime you are in a contentious relationship with a cunt, know that the minute she's being nice, she's up to something. I think it's best for betas to find needy women--they're easy to control.

eccentricrealist · 2017-04-25T19:35:13+00:00

Be strong for your son. She will try to make him hate you as well.

francie-brady · 2017-04-25T19:44:15+00:00

Don't simply try to push sadness away...feel it and let it go away naturally. Remember: happy oyster makes no pearl.

HobbesTheBrave · 2017-04-25T19:55:50+00:00

Know that the cheater isn't going to get kept by the the next guy. Because if she can't stay in one marriage happily, she isn't going to stay in the next one.

SlyAM · 2017-04-25T19:59:00+00:00

Don't show any sign of weakness. This is all I can say to you right now. Stay neutral with her for your kid's sake, but do not try to resolve this and "get her back". She may come rushing back to you in the future, but remember that she cheated and hurt you just to have some excitement in her life, just DON'T TAKE HER BACK no matter what. Be stoic and hold frame when the divorce takes place (that is if you are married), but be prepared to lose a lot. This going to kill you, but in the end, it will make you better. On the bright side, you aren't locked down anymore! You are free to pursue whoever the fuck you want to, and this is actually a chance to improve yourself and your game. Hit the gym hard, work on yourself, and take care of yourself and your kid. Things may look dim now, but you're going to be fine, stay strong and never cease improvement.

bolupua · 2017-04-25T21:40:28+00:00

Dude something very similar happened to me. She left me for a high school chad that reconnected with her via Facebook. We also have a small kid, she doesn't care.

It was the best thing that happened to me. She is post wall obviously, and I am in the best time of my life.

BTW I didn't care about the breakup, in fact I was happy. She saw this and then had the guts to try and crawl back several times on the following months, then she tried to stalk me (she fell in love with the sudden alphaness I was displaying) obviously I rejected her.

The kid is OK, they are too young to know anything at that age.

Nalgasakbar · 2017-04-25T21:53:14+00:00

"Sometimes you eat the bear, and sometimes, the bear eats you" - The Dudes Cowboy friend.

I say fuck that bear. You fucking train at the gym. Pick up some hobbies. Monk mode for a while.

Be ready for any bear that comes along.

On that note, listen to Patrice O'Neals show, the Black Phillip show. Many similar stories from callers, that you'll be able to relate to and hear Patrice's wise words.

Fuck that hoe.

blurry_birb · 2017-04-25T22:52:57+00:00

Sounds like she wasn't interested anymore. People can fall out of love as fast as they can faling in love. Your pain is valid and I hope you and your son would visit more. Although, I think the proper reaction is moving on to someone is superior to her and getting on with life. Reacting maliciously will only make her think of you lower. Abusing her over text can harm her which can harm your child. Just, please, think about the big picture. You got someone who is unfaithful out of your life quick so later on it wouldn't have been worse.

Sensei_Hensei · 2017-04-25T23:17:33+00:00

Women step out for two reasons.

She is no longer attracted to you.
She is bored.

Women will put all of the blame in one reason.

Him.

Don't let her hamster you into a monster because she decided to move on and needs a scapegoat instead of just owning up to her real feelings.

corneliucodreanu · 2017-04-26T07:21:29+00:00

hamsterd fucking hard and made me sound like a bad guy

Remember guys: Typical female strategy when confronted about her promiscuity, is to flip and counter attack you for the same thing you might have done in the past, or some other random shit completely orthogonal to the topic.

Maintain frame, ignore her flip, make her stick to topic i.e, defending herself against your accusation with a legit explanation, and pressure the bitch to confess.

ihatefeminazis1 · 2017-04-26T13:47:16+00:00

Believe me I know what you're saying. Had the same happen to me after 6 years of seeing that bitch.. She just slept with one guy a week later.. I'm sure she did before as well.. Either way I did my own little thing to get revenge on her and after that I got over her immediately. She doesn't deserve anything. Stay strong my friend. People like that are garbage

imuser465 · 2017-04-25T15:39:28+00:00

I'm sorry for you man. AWALT. Best thing you can do is ghost her and let her face her own nightmares. Like a dude said down here:

"I can tell you right now, it will not workout with this other dude. It never does. That being said, when she comes crawling back, you DO NOT take her back."

I'm ghosting a girl that stressed me so much and it's funny how she maintains two different personalities: Online shes is some fucking beyonce that doesn't need no guy and is happy with being single. But she don't stop sending me texts saying how much she misses me. I'm not saying a word to her and i can see that this silence is consuming her. It's like saying: You can have other dudes, you can have you single life, you can have any shit you want. But you can't have my attention. :)

Anyway, i always remember that Rorschach quote: The streets are extended gutters and the gutters are full of blood and when the drains finally scab over, all the vermin will drown. The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "Save us!"... and I'll whisper "no."

zoom54321 · 2017-04-25T20:32:22+00:00

Sorry to hear this. I went through something similar with my wife of 15 years, and like you, I thought everything was going great.

I too felt something was off, and discovered she'd been texting this guy from her gym incessantly. I flipped, told her we were done and she promised to change, saying that it was just texting and a friendship that got a little out of hand. Tried working it out for the next few months but she was sneaky as fuck and my once loyal level headed 35 year old mother of 3 wife started acting out like a spoiled, rebellious, selfish 14 year old. Even treated me as though I was her "overbearing" father figure who was chaining her down because I kept discovering her secret IG accounts, texts, google acct. Map timeline, etc.

This went on for a couple of months and I tried working it out to keep my family together. Played the nice, understanding, and forgiving guy bullshit and everything, essentially, I played the part of a beta cuckold. Nothing changes until I got my confidence back, manned up, and packed my shit up to leave. It was more than show, I mentally flipped a switch (probably because I started reading redpill and the likes)

Essentially, it was mostly an emotional affair with one instance of kissing, but the signs were all there. Were working things out, but the respect I once had for her is gone and things will always be different.

I got the whole, "I need my space", "I feel like you're coming trolling me", I love you but I'm not in love with you", etc. These are masked signs that she's infatuated with someone else, either physically or emotionally. I guarantee you that she was seeing this guy for months before leaving. Girls swing from vine to vine, and they won't let go until they have another vine to latch onto. Be prepared for her to realize this infatuation of hers is nothing but a mirage and she starts coming back to you. After fyi experience, I've taken note of what others have gone through and notice a multitude of similarities. Even down to the exact phrasing, word usage, behavior, and evolution.

Moral here... Always trust your instincts, and learn what you can from your experiences and those of others. Don't take it personal, as girls sometimes just go crazy as fuck and will walk away from a wonderful reality for a slightly better fantasy that never plays out.

yunhaila · 2017-04-25T17:19:15+00:00

You may feel defeated now, but you are more valuable as you age as a man if you continue to work on yourself. You'll be back on your feet and she'll age horribly in no time.

2pumpTrump · 2017-04-26T00:54:29+00:00

OP has been on this forum for 6 months and his mind is blown about how his relationship failed...smh

chetov · 2017-04-26T06:34:18+00:00

Ever thought maybe you didn't argue for 6 months because she stopped caring? You haven't done anything that bad for 6 months boo fucking hoo give the boy a medal he was a decent human being for 6 whole months

[deleted] · 2017-04-26T00:17:03+00:00

love is bullshit. women are just cunts.

Sir_Distic · 2017-04-26T01:33:08+00:00

Stocism is your friend right now. Be the Rock your son needs. Don't get mad at her, don't show anger or hatred towards her whenever you have your son. Even if you think he's not around. She'll either talk shit about you or forget about you and work on Harry being his "dad".

Either way raise your son to be a Red Pill man. We don't get angry at women. It's her nature to find a better provider. You fucked up because you were not her Alpha, her rock, her leader, the man she needed. Now it was probably over before you found Red Pill. I'm sure you working on improving yourself was the nail in the coffin "You've changed so much lately." Am I right? She said that or something very similar didn't she? Didn't she?

It's ok. Forget about her. Let go of your anger and hate. Or better yet, channel it into the gym. Fucking lift those heavy iron plates to burn the hate for her out of you.

But whatever you do be the man your son needs. His father, his leader, his teacher and his rock. Teach him about respect, respect for those that deserve it and for himself.

Go monk mode. Work on yourself hard core. Then you'll be ready to plate several hot 20-somethings with no care if she's mad. But DO NOT try to win her back or do anything for her. Don't lift to get buff for her. Don't become anything to win her back or "Show her up" It WILL backfire.

V1SoR · 2017-04-25T13:22:00+00:00

As far as I'm concerned, that happens in most Western marriages. You can't do anything about it, women are just biologically disgusted by male commitment. Whether they act on their feelings or not depends on their character and the society the live in. Frankly the Western society is pretty retarded in this case: most answers on Quora or a similar site suggest immediately leaving your partner once you're no longer 'happy' (aka butterflies are gone). If the people around you absolutely condone this kind of behaviour, why would you hold back, right?

Find a Eastern European or an Asian girlfriend to increase your chances of a loyal partner.

[deleted] · 2017-04-26T00:55:13+00:00

You need to be strong for your son. Don't give her any power at all. Fight for your son, appear calm and collected, have your life organised because you should have a bigger influence on his life than your piece of trash ex-wife.

Schlomo2_0 · 2017-04-26T05:40:04+00:00

AWALT brother. Sorry for you. Just find a New LTR, with a more loyal woman.

WolfofAnarchy · 2017-04-26T06:03:38+00:00

Congratulations, dude. You just managed to prevent a live chained to that cheating bitch.

dirtydog113 · 2017-04-26T06:04:23+00:00

Mate ,been there...best thing you can do ...keep lifting , keep improving . let it go, let her go , ghost her and do your own thing. Success is the best revenge.Its taken me a long time to accept that statement , but it is the right one.Your son will grow up and make his own mind up.

yoghurtorgan · 2017-04-26T09:27:21+00:00

Just last night a policeman found out his wife was cheating and killed her and shot the dude, and this was on the other side of the planet. Just remember someone always has it worse.

Gr0o0vy · 2017-04-26T10:45:54+00:00

plenty of great advice in here already ; I will just repeat as it cannot be said enough - the only true power you have is over your own mind. Go out there and enjoy improving your life!

2jz240sx · 2017-04-26T14:33:13+00:00

I'm approaching the 1 year mark from splitting with my kids mother . Simular branch swinging situation that I learned from my kids (3yo and 5yo) that her friend moved in about a week after I left . I made sure never to ask them any questions about her friend last thing I wanted to do was interrogate them the pain from her doing this to me and my kids still resurfaces from time to time. My outlet has been the gym. June 1st the divorce will be offical . Keep going to the gym ! Best advice I can give any man going through this .

yomo86 · 2017-04-26T15:03:53+00:00

Good lord, man I'm sorry for you. What TRP taught me trust your got, keep it pragmatic and stoic - the worst what can happen is that you put her under unjustified dread by hinting that you assume she has a side-piece.

juliusstreicher · 2017-04-26T15:45:44+00:00

Every time i suspect cheating, i am right. Never mistrust your manstincts. I know it hurts like a bitch, dude, but you don't want to be with a person like that. Get your shit together or keep it together if you are in a good place. I understand wanting it to work out since she is the mother of your child, but don't ask her to come back. Put the ball in her court and walk away. Most importantly, maintain frame. Don't let her see you struggling. Handle any interactions with her with grace and dignity. Kill her with kindness. Nothing messes with a woman like seeing you be perfectly fine with the situation and happy in your life without her. It will drive her insane.

juliusstreicher · 2017-04-30T13:07:59+00:00

You don't have to tell your son what a whore she was, but, you don't have to tell him lies, either. Now, after you made up a lie, so he won't blame her, he tells YOU about the guy she's been fucking. Your son knows what was up, and, since you don't tell him the truth, he thinks that you either can't understand or refuse to see reality.

Just say "She didn't want to stay." If the child asks "Why not?" Just say that you don't know.

Bear-With-Bit · 2017-04-26T02:23:10+00:00

My marriage lasted a year before we filed for divorce, but even that was stretched to the limits. Two months after our wedding she brought up divorce. TWO FUCKING MONTHS. THAT'S HALF AN NFL SEASON.

~~Our~~ Her reason for splitting? I wasn't making enough money ~~for us~~ for her. She simply decided she didn't want to wait for my startup to get some cash flow. Well, success is the best revenge: I was already cash positive before the divorce even finalized.

I'm 99% confident my ex wasn't fucking some other dude, considering her busy work schedule. Hypergamy doesn't always mean a bitch will always swing to the next dick, but it does mean she wants to swing away from yours.

alvlear · 2017-04-26T05:28:38+00:00

Why do so many chicks want to fuck coworkers? I have seen this so many times, and idiot thirsties let them do it. A man should know not to shit where he eats. The hoes at work give me iois, but I ain't going there, ever. But these chicks seem to think dating coworkers is okay. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if this is what they preferred over bars and apps.

I do not think this is just my experience, but the amount of iois is insane for what is supposed to be a workplace. And now OP here is a casualty.

5t3fan0 · 2017-04-26T12:07:21+00:00

she tells me and that i had done too many bad things in the past even though we hadn't argued much if at all

if she FEELS like you had done bad to her, it doesnt matter if you actually did or not

i thought it was some feminits power shit she got in her head.

yes, all women have it: some are better than others at it, but that shit is built-in in their dna software

good luck with your life dude, get as much detached and away from her as possible while keeping as close to your kid... also dont think about trying to stay "friend" with her because she will hate you for it and probably sabotage you in your effort

aga080 · 2017-04-26T14:37:37+00:00

Stop texting her man, your going To get yourself in trouble.

[deleted] · 2017-04-26T14:56:44+00:00

I hope things get better OP. You didn't deserve this.

smithyASTON · 2017-04-26T20:17:29+00:00

What a bitch man, chin up brother. She has just opened many many great doors for you. ;)

Cairnsian · 2017-04-26T22:27:03+00:00

that's pretty fvcked up bro

Hab1tual · 2017-04-27T00:48:01+00:00

Cut that bitch off like a light switch.

Mckallidon · 2017-04-27T04:31:25+00:00

Time to work on yourself and just plow hos.

Shakydrummer · 2017-05-01T18:55:01+00:00

So sorry to hear that OP. Lots of support here though man - all the best. Same thing happened to a family member of mine and despite working with the heartbreak, he never compromised on being an exceptional parent. He let the psycho exs do the shit talking while he just focused on being the better man and a good father...surprise surprise who do his kids like more.

DeathToTheZog · 2017-05-15T07:16:42+00:00

Do not show her your true feelings. Use this pain, this crushing betrayal as fuel.

By yourself, get some music that pumps you up. Get some water, stretch, and start doing push ups. Do squats. Go buy a dumbell, and curl. Do whatever you can, and focus on that dad bod. Dont bullshit, i had one too.

You have to flip this pain and rage, and harness it. It will devour you if you don't.

I hope you overcome this.

Q_easy · 2017-06-12T15:16:07+00:00

We are all here for you bro

L3G10N9 · 2017-04-25T17:51:04+00:00

This is pretty "blue pill" for me to say but is it because you didn't marry her and left it open that she left you? Just speculating..

THEDICKDEALER · 2017-04-25T13:18:42+00:00

Have you went to the black magic? I suggest finding a vudoo priest to sacrifice the bitch.

Compeliminator · 2017-04-25T17:04:09+00:00

im not saying anyone should do this but i had an ex take me for alot of money because i thought she was sick and needed the help. she was fucking another guy who made more money than me the whole time. i went to where they lived and confronted both of them. i told the guy that i wasnt leaving untill she either apologized or signed a legal contract to pay me back one of the two. i told the guy she had 5 minutes or i would beat the living shit out of him. im guessing that is not the definition of being stoic. the guy made her apologize

LOST_TALE · 2017-04-26T02:28:14+00:00

decided to lie to my son that she was moving to be closer to his grandmar. (Dont want him to blame her)

It's disgusting to lie to your son. You treat a child with so little moral respect, I lose a lot of it for you.

Whatever she ever did to blue pill your world, to leave you out of reality. You've sharply done to your child.

Hypocrit if you ever expect pitty for that sort of shit.

Elm-tree-time · 2017-04-26T13:13:09+00:00

Look at what subreddit you're posting in. It isn't shocking that you can't keep a woman. Hopefully she wins custody and saves your son from growing into scum like you.