Here's something interesting that I picked up today while spending some time with my sister and one of her friends.

My sister's friend was talking about a guy that's been texting her some pretty needy things, trying to get a second date. She wanted my opinion on how long it should take before he gets a clue.

She had basically told him that they could hang out when they were both back in town again, and then ignored him every time he texted "What's up." She also laughed over how he texted her on a Saturday and she didn't even reply to him until Monday.

Obviously, this guy was in some pretty dire need of validation and should have just carried along his merry way — he should have gotten a clue WAY early on, but you know how Billy Beta's can be (since many of us used to be one...rather, I speak from experience).

Anyway, in describing this, my sister joked that "Well he obviously doesn't have 'big dick energy.'"

They both laughed, and I interjected — "Wait, is that an actual thing that girls talk about?"

They went on to describe how "big dick energy" is a real thing that women screen for in men, and it could best be described as (to quote them)...

"The confidence that would come with having an enormous dick...like..they just wouldn't need to give a fuck what you think of them because their dick is so huge."

WHICH, as you well know, aligns perfectly with having control of your frame.

Whether or not you have a truly enormous dick is not relevant; and you don't need to even ACT like you do.

But what you DO need to do, is act in such a way that you have nothing to prove to anybody. You can choose to maintain that level of control in your interactions, and it's a RP truth that's (hopefully) been beaten into your frontal lobe by now.

It's not a new theory or anything, but I was fascinated that girls have cooked up a name for this kind of thing beyond just "confidence."

Because these two women had a hard time even putting it into words as to why they find this type of self-confidence/frame control attractive, but they know they clearly do.

Just because they don't know the mechanism of how it works doesn't mean that they aren't active participants in its effect.

Just because you don't know how an engine runs doesn't mean you can't drive your car.

So if you needed a reminder that the other side of the fence is actively assessing your energy and whether or not it gives off that "I have a big dick" vibe (regardless of your 3.5 - 8in variable dick length), then consider yourself reminded.

Oh, also apparently this term arose from the confusion of all the women on the Internet as to how some SNL comic (I think) Pete Davidson was able to bag Ariana Grande. Which succinctly explains why I would have never heard of this.

Keep control of your frame — live in your own world and take good care of it. Maybe it'll become a place that others would like to see themselves living in.