All are done well by focusing on other people:Â Get out of your head and into theirs.
Bob Sutton reviewed Bill and Dave: How Hewlett and Packard Built the Worldâs Greatest Company and called out âDave Packardâs 11 Simple Rulesâ as guidelines for building an excellent work environment. What was #1?
1. Think first of the other fellow. This is THE foundation â the first requisite â for getting along with others. And it is the one truly difficult accomplishment you must make. Gaining this, the rest will be âa breeze.â
Dale Carnegieâs How to Win Friends and Influence People is the classic on getting along well with others. (I broke down the social science underpinnings of it here.) Carnegie listed six ways to make people like you.
Via Wikipedia:
See a pattern?
I asked my buddy Adam, Fortune Magazine’s most connected guy in Silicon Valley, what his single best tip was for being better at networking. What did he say?
Every day, do something selfless for someone else that takes under five minutes. The essence of this thing you do should be that it makes a big difference to the person receiving the gift. Usually these favors take the form of an introduction, reference, feedback, or broadcast on social media.
I interviewed my friend Chris Voss, former Lead International Hostage Negotiator for the FBI. What did he say was the key to influencing people — even when they have a gun to someone’s head?
If your first objective in the negotiation, instead of making your argument, is to hear the other side out, thatâs the only way you can quiet the voice in the other guyâs mind. But most people donât do that. They donât walk into a negotiation wanting to hear what the other side has to say. They walk into a negotiation wanting to make an argument. They donât pay attention to emotions and they donât listen.
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So what do you get out of all this attention to the needs and wants of others? Well, you just might get to be a very happy person.
âResearchers⦠found that happy people are ten times more likely to be other-oriented than self-centered. This suggests that happiness is a by-product of helping others rather than the result of its pursuit.â
Via Shiny Objects: Why We Spend Money We Donât Have in Search of Happiness We Canât Buy:
So who is the happiestâ a person who devotes his time to the pursuit of personal happiness or the person who devotes his life to helping others? The following brief exercise may help you fashion an answer to that question, which is one of lifeâs most fundamental. First, list ten people whom you know well. Next, rate each person as either happy or unhappy. Finally, rate each person as either self-centered or other-oriented. Do you see a pattern? Researchers have: theyâve found that happy people are ten times more likely to be other-oriented than self-centered. This suggests that happiness is a by-product of helping others rather than the result of its pursuit.
Give it a try today.  Stop thinking about yourself and think about the other person. Get out of your head and into theirs.
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Title | What do great workplaces, making friends, networking, dealing with kidnappers and being happy all have in common? |
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Author | Eric Barker |
Date | February 21, 2013 2:24 PM UTC (11 years ago) |
Blog | bakadesuyo |
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Original Link | https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/02/great-workplaces-making-friends-networking-dealing-kidnappers-happy-common/ |
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