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What’s the greatest way to say thank you – and make yourself happier at the same time?

Eric Barker
May 22, 2012

It’s called a “gratitude visit” and research at the University of Pennsylvania by happiness expert Martin Seligman has shown it can dramatically increase your happiness.

Via Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being:

Close your eyes. Call up the face of someone still alive who years ago did something or said something that changed your life for the better. Someone who you never properly thanked; someone you could meet face-to-face next week. Got a face?

Gratitude can make your life happier and more satisfying. When we feel gratitude, we benefit from the pleasant memory of a positive event in our life. Also, when we express our gratitude to others, we strengthen our relationship with them. But sometimes our thank-you is said so casually or quickly that it is nearly meaningless. In this exercise, called the âGratitude Visit,â you will have the opportunity to experience what it is like to express your gratitude in a thoughtful, purposeful manner.

Your task is to write a letter of gratitude to this individual and deliver it in person. The letter should be concrete and about three hundred words: be specific about what she did for you and how it affected your life. Let her know what you are doing now, and mention how you often remember what she did. Make it sing!

Once you have written the testimonial, call the person and tell her youâd like to visit her, but be vague about the purpose of the meeting; this exercise is much more fun when it is a surprise. When you meet her, take your time reading your letter. Notice her reactions as well as yours. If she interrupts you as you read, say that you really want her to listen until you are done. After you have read the letter (every word), discuss the content and your feelings for each other.

You will be happier and less depressed one month from now.

Seligman left one thing out: Bring tissues.

People cry when you do this. You will cry when you do this. Everyone cries, but it’s a good cry.  :)

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Title What’s the greatest way to say thank you – and make yourself happier at the same time?
Author Eric Barker
Date May 22, 2012 6:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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