Dating Younger Women – 7 Ways to Use Your Age as An Advantage

Todayâs article is for men over the age of 35. If you are under the age of 35, youâre certainly invited as well; this doesnât quite apply to you yet, but it will soon.

These guys who lie and make their age eight years younger⦠no! I donât think you should lie at all, but if you were to lie, Iâd rather you lie and make your age older than make your age younger. Yes, if you did this, youâd actually be more successful with the Type Twos. Itâs true youâd probably get more matches/ hits/numbers if you lie and make your age younger (or present yourself younger in other ways) but you wonât actually get to sex with these women since many of these newly âinterestedâ prospects will actually be Type Ones (who you wonât get to sex with no matter what you do) and Type Threes (who you wonât get anywhere with unless you have very strong game, do everything right and really take your time).

Guys donât understand that Type Twos donât want younger men, nor do they want older men who act like younger men. They want older men who act like older men. Thatâs the entire point. Thatâs what theyâre attracted to. 

They want the things that make older men different from younger men. This means you should not only not try to act younger, but instead you should play up the qualities that older men have over younger men.  

Here are the seven qualities of older men, or at least those qualities that Type Two younger women perceive older men to have that you need to place on full display. They are listed in no particular order. 

Confidence 

Iâve talked about confidence in great detail, including exactly what it is and how to exude it in The Unchained Man and Get To Sex Fast. Younger women assume, usually correctly, that older men tend to be more confident than younger men. Just the act of appearing older and more mature can often give the illusion that youâre more confident. 

Of course, you should actually be more confident too, or at least fake it until you make it (in the case of older men who are out of practice because theyâve been monogamous for so long).

Strength of Personality 

Older men are perceived to have stronger personalities, stronger wills and more mental toughness. The more of those traits you can exude when talking to younger women, the more successful you will be. 

This kind of strength does not mean youâre an asshole (with one exception Iâll get to in a minute). It is indeed possible to be a very strong, tough, nice, polite guy. A true Alpha Male knows how to exude massive inner strength while being relaxed and smooth without being overbearing or a jerk. This is much easier for older men than it is for younger guys in their twenties. 

Motivation and Drive 

This is huge and should go without saying. This is also one of the biggest reasons why younger women/older men couples are becoming more common. Younger men in the Millennial and Generation Z categories seem to lack the motivation and drive of prior generations. I realize some of you younger guys will start bitching and defending this but weâve already had that conversation here and here.  

The point here is that since we live in a society where, right or wrong, younger men are perceived to have no motivation and drive, itâs much easier for you as an older guy to demonstrate those very traits and stand apart because of them.  

Numerous times over the past 12 years I have been dating much younger women and when I tell them I canât hang out with them because Iâm busy working in my exciting (to me) businesses, their attraction for me skyrockets even though they complain Iâm being selfish or an asshole. Read this for more information on exactly how that works. 

Success 

This is basic SMV stuff and you donât need me to explain this to you. Obviously if you present yourself as more successful as an older man it will help with the younger women. As Iâve said (and proven) many times before, itâs not mandatory, but it does help. 

Focus 

This goes hand-in-hand with motivation and drive. Younger women notice that when an older man starts a project thatâs important to him, he is more likely to single-mindedly focus on that project in ways many younger men canât or wonât.  

Focus is also a core trait of masculinity and thus attractive to females. Itâs much more difficult for women to sit down, put their heads down and TOTALLY FOCUS on ONE THING for a LONG TIME. We men are much, much better at this. Itâs how our brains are designed. The more you can show women, particularly younger women you have this ability, the better. 

Having Your Shit Together 

Again, this is something that is more helpful now than it was 30 years ago when most men of all ages had their shit together, including guys in their early twenties. Today, you have to look well past age 35 to find men who have all of their shit together in life, emotionally, physically, financially, career-wise and so on. That means if youâre over 35 and have your shit together, youâre much more attractive to younger women now than at any other point in modern history. Itâs a very nice place to be.

As Iâve discussed at my blogs before, as the West continues to collapse, this age of 35 where men have gotten their shit together is going to rise. Soon, women will have to look for men over age 40. Then 45. All that does is benefit you as an older man⦠assuming you have your shit together of course. (Which means that if youâre an older man and you donât have your shit together, youâve got some catching up to do and youâd better stop fucking around right now and get your ass to work.)

Not Tolerating Any Drama or Crap 

The biggest difference between younger men and older men in terms of relationships with women is that younger men will tolerate all kinds of drama, bullshit, arguments, insults and other garbage from women where older men generally will not. 

This was certainly true with me as a younger man and it was probably true with you as well. Remember back when you were in your twenties⦠all those long, drawn-out arguments you had with women you were dating. Do you put up with that shit now? Probably not. Today you probably just kick their little asses out the door.

Not putting up with a younger womanâs crap, this father-like authority to shut shit down with her before things get heated or irrational is yet another one of these attraction factors that you must demonstrate. Itâs one of the biggest things that will separate you from the younger men her age. 

I suggest you rank yourself on each of these seven items and give yourself a score of 1 to 10. If any are below an 8, you should set a goal to get them to at least an 8, if not higher. 

When you do, your results with younger women will improve. They canât not improve.