Those are all the areas, and the only areas, in which I should be spending my time. I know that if Iâm spending time outside of any of these areas, I am wasting time. For example, notice âWatching TVâ isnât in there anywhere. I haven’t had a TV signal coming into my house for about 15 years. Why? Because watching TV takes time away from my objectives, so I donât do it. (Today I have a TV signal in my house but it’s Pink Firefly’s; she pays for it; I don’t use it.)
Thatâs also why there are no categories like âworking on the carâ or âkarateâ or âgoing to concertsâ or âhanging out with friends.â I would much rather work on my Mission or have sex than do any of these things. But thatâs me.
Now again, youâre not me, so if you consider hanging out with friends very important to you, thatâs fine. Then by all means, have a âFriendsâ category. This just means you must eliminate something else. See how these things all wrap together?
The advantage in having categories is twofold: A) It tells you where to spend your time, and B) it defines for you exactly what âwasting timeâ means to you. Both of these are valuable.
4. Schedule your key categories in your calendar at least once every three days or so, using the E3D system in my book. Also schedule any appointments in there. You donât need to schedule every category, because some will happen automatically and/or via a habit.
Think before you schedule these things, because once you put it down, you are making an appointment with yourself, and youâre going to keep that appointment no matter what. Treat it as if itâs an appointment with your boss. (Because it is.) If you put down something youâre not sure youâre going to âmake,â then put it down for a different time.
Be sure to leave gaps in your schedule. Donât schedule your categories wall-to-wall from 6am to 11pm. You need gaps to deal with emergences, unexpected occurrences, things taking longer than you planned, and so on.
5. Schedule your dating. If youâre in dating mode right now, youâll need a category called âwomenâ or âdatingâ or âpick-upâ or whatever you feel is most applicable. I have always said that any guy who wants to get good at online dating or daygame needs to schedule in those things at least three times per week. Put them in your schedule, and keep those appointments with yourself.
6. Follow your schedule. Make sure you refer to it often. Learn to make your schedule your master, not your whims or the whims of other people. This is one of the hardest habits to learn in life, but one of the most important. (And youâll never be 100% perfect with it. Thatâs okay.)
7. What if âshit comes up?â It will. If what âcomes upâ is in one of your categories, thatâs fine, take the time and address it, or whip out your schedule and schedule a time to deal with it later.
If things are coming up routinely that are outside of your categories, that means your life is out of control. You need to man-up, and get control back. Do whatever you need to do, but do not let things regularly âcome upâ that are not in your categories! Non-category items that âcome upâ are only acceptable if they happen infrequently (like a doctorâs appointment). If theyâre happening all the damn time, youâve got big life problems that you need to deal with.
8. Never waste time unless itâs pre-planned. Even the most disciplined, productive, successful people waste a little time now and then. Itâs normal and human. But successful people waste time when they plan it in advance, on their terms.
Iâll use myself as an example again. For me, watching TV is a massive waste of time. It accomplishes nothing I want in life. So I donât do it. But, Iâm human, so I do allow myself to waste a little time now and then. There are times, when all my work is done, during one of my gaps in my schedule, Iâll hop on the internet and stream an episode of the old Dr. Who show from the 70s or 80s, or watch a quick scene or two from an Avengers movie. Iâm wasting time, but I’m not wasting very much, and Iâm doing so on my terms.
See how this is different then just coming home from work, plopping on the couch, and watching sitcom reruns or binge watching Walking Dead for four hours straight like most Americans do?
Iâve also talked about how sometimes Iâll play a video game, set a one-hour timer, play, save my game and stop playing when the timer goes off, then get back to work. Again, Iâm not letting my time-wasting or recreational time suck blood from my goals, Mission, and long-term happiness.
And before I see this in the comments, if your knee-jerk response to this is that you âcould never do that,â that you somehow âmustâ play your stupid video game for more than an hour because you lack a basic, adult level of self-control, then have fun being mediocre for the rest of your fucking life. Iâm glad Iâm not you.
9. Say NO. Whenever anyone asks you to do something in your work, in your family life, in your personal life, and certainly in your woman life, say NO. Be an asshole and say no. Everyone is constantly trying to give you shit to do. But itâs not your shit, itâs their shit. You donât need more shit. You have enough shit. People who say yes to everything never accomplish a damn thing in life. One of the biggest time management skills is the ability to learn to say no.
This applies double to the women in your relationship life. Women are constantly trying to betaize you and turn you into a pussy or a slave. Be a fucking man and say NO. Even if they get mad, say no. Even if they leave you (good!!!), say no.
NO!
10. Batch your tasks. All similar tasks should be done at the same time. This has direct application to dating.
When Iâm in full dating mode (and itâs been a long time since this was the case; I donât need to âdateâ very much anymore since I have such a nice, steady roster of women), I can easily be working on 15-20 or more women at a time. I have women I need to message, some I need to call, some I need to text, some I need to send Facebook messages to, and so on. So I will go into all of my dating sites, apps, and social media all at once, message all the women I need to message, then Iâll pick up my phone and send six texts right there to all the women I need to text, and so on.
Iâm doing all of this during my scheduled âwomanâ time. Iâm not doing this just because a woman has just texted or left a voicemail that says âOMG, call me right now!â NO. Sorry Darling, youâre waiting until I can batch you with other phone calls to other women.
Thatâs it! Donât let an active dating life interfere with your other life areas, particularly your Mission!