Oh man. A lot of you emailed me this NY Times article written by a 30 year-old woman bitching about how men like to date younger women.
Instead of posting actual quotes from the article, Iâm going to instead address the overall points it makes. If you feel I am not accurately representing the points itâs trying to make (and I will do my best to do so), then simply click the link above and read the article for yourself. Itâs not very long.
Point #1 from the article. Itâs not fair to women that the average man settles down 2.3 years (or more) after the average woman does. The average age of new mothers is 26, but the average age of new fathers is 31. Thus, itâs not fair that men get five more years of âplay timeâ than women do.
My response. Please show me the person forcing these 26 year-old women at gunpoint to get pregnant and have babies. While youâre at it, please also show me the person forcing all these women to date, marry, and have kids with men who are older than them, rather than men their own age or men who are younger.
What is that, you say? No one is forcing them? Oh. Interesting. So what youâre saying is that women are choosing to have babies when theyâre 26 and theyâre choosing to date/marry/fuck/have kids with men who are older than them. Women are choosing these things⦠so why are you complaining? Via feminism, you wanted women to be able to choose their own life path. Great. You got it. Now they can. And now youâre complaining about what these women are doing? And worse, implying this is somehow not fair?
How can a thing be unfair if itâs something you are purposely choosing of your own free will? Any woman reading these words can wait until sheâs 30 or 35 to have kids. Any woman can choose to have babies with a man her age instead of a man older than her. If women choose not to do this, thatâs womenâs fucking fault. There is nothing âunfairâ about their personal choices.
Moreover, I have been screaming publicly for almost a decade that no one, man or woman, should even think about having kids in the modern era until he or she is at least 30 years old, preferably older. I think men should wait until at least 40. Not only will having children make you less happy, but having kids murders your big life goals for at least 15 years. Therefore, this is not something you want to do until most or all of your big life goals are already completed.
I realize most women are not going to take that advice (hell, most men donât take that advice), but that doesnât mean Iâm wrong.
Point #2 from the article. Itâs not fair for women when they settle down with an older man because then itâs more likely that sheâll have to take care of the man in old age.
My response. The real divorce rate in the Western world for people who get married now is around 70%, sweetheart, and the younger the person, the higher that number becomes. Younger women donât stick around. That younger woman is going to be long gone from that guy before he even gets close to being old. Read this and this for more data on that.
Point #3 from the article. Women mature faster than men. This is possibly because men know they can settle down at a later age than women.
My response. Correct on both counts. Women do mature faster than men, and as Western men become more beta and child-like, this phenomenon has exacerbated in recent years, and will continue to get worse. I have written about this in great detail both here and here.
I donât like this any more than you do (well, I do sort of like it because it creates less competition for me for younger, hotter women), but at least Iâm not the cause of this problem like you are. The reasons for this childification of men are all due to left-wing social mores such as socialism, third wave feminism, man bashing, divorce rape, the welfare state, and increased size and role of government, all things that I have a very strong feeling you support, and that I have vehemently opposed my entire life.
Once again, like many women (and left-wingers) youâre bitching about a problem you, and people like you created. As Iâve been telling women for many years: you wanted this crap, now have fun dealing with the fallout.
Point #4 from the article. It upsets me that men I go on first dates with who are 30 years old like me have not given any thought to if or when they want kids, while this is a very important thing for me. Itâs arrogant.
My response. Yeah. Read everything I just said above. It’s your fault.
Point #5 from the article. Itâs arrogant because men think their sperm works just as well at age 30 as it does at age 40 or beyond, and science clearly shows this is not the case.