We all know why we have sex.
We have sex because weâre horny. We have sex because our biology compels us to. We have sex to have babies (well, not usually, but sometimes). We have sex to deepen a connection to another person (well, not usually, but sometimes). In some cases, particularly with men, we have sex to let off steam or de-stress. In other cases, particularly with women, we have sex because weâre getting something financial out of the deal. We all know those reasons, and theyâre all valid, or can be.
I think there are deeper reasons.
Iâm a man, so I look at this from the masculine perspective. I can make some educated guesses as to these deeper reasons for sex (if any) from the female perspective, but I will never know for sure what itâs like to be a woman, so Iâll stick with the masculine perspective for the moment.
Something that has been on my mind lately is that we men have so few ways of expressing our primitive feelings and characteristics. I realize Iâm not alone in making this observation, that many men, from Jack Donovan to Sylvester Stallone, have been complaining about this for years.
I still remember the feeling of pure exhilaration I felt as a kid during the few times I was allowed to compete in full-contact karate (we didnât have MMA or UFC back then). There were times I would leave the center of the dojo battered and bloody, literally bloody, and I felt fantastic. (I discuss one of these times in detail in my book.)