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The Power of Beta Males

Blackdragon
December 14, 2015

Common wisdom among the manosphere, PUAs, Alphas, and other such manly men is that beta males are complete and utter pussies who are in no way any competition for us badass Alphas. Theyâre so harmless that we Alphas can simply breeze past them without a second thought and nail all those hot girls that the betas only fantasize about.

Alphas believe that their competition is not from betas, but only from other Alphas. The common wisdom is that even if a white knight beta tries to cockblock you, he can be disarmed and bypassed quickly and without too much fuss. After all, heâs just a beta. Pssh.

On the other side of the coin, often there are beta male defenders or apologists who say things like, âSo what if there are tons of betas out there? So what? What difference does that make to you?â

The problem is that while Alpha Males are busy flexing their muscles about how badass they are, and while beta male apologists are thinking betas donât affect them, both groups often forget that beta males are not only a threat to your success in your woman life, but they are actually one of the biggest obstacles of them all.

Those betas raise the cost of dates you go on with women and raise the amount of time and effort it takes for you to get to sex. One of those same pussy, wimpy, needy, white knight beta males you constantly make fun of is going to not only take away that super hot girl youâre now fucking, but marry her too. I donât think youâll be bragging about what a badass you are then.

The reality is that beta males wield vast power over woman that you as an Alpha (1.0 or 2.0) will never have.

What the hell am I talking about? I shall explain.

Who Do Women Leave You For?

I have talked before about the LSNFTE, when a woman leaves you because you wonât play ball with her bullshit Disney picture of what a relationship is supposed to look like, and then quickly gets a boyfriend who happily conforms with this fairy tale, at least temporarily.

Iâve talked about exactly what to do in these scenarios, when to expect them, and how to reduce the odds of them happening as soon. But weâve never talked about the type of guy these women dump you for. Are these guys betas or Alphas?

Numerous women have LSNFTEâd me over the years. (Of course 94% come back eventually, but thatâs a different topic.) Every time they do it, they dump me for a beta. Not another Alpha, but a beta.

I get dumped for betas all the time. I almost never get dumped for another Alpha.

Iâve been LSNFTEâd about 40 times(?), perhaps more (sometimes multiple times by the same woman). Of all those times, just two were because a woman dumped me for an Alpha Male (1.0). The other 95% of them dumped me for a beta.

Why?

This brings us to the first of the superpowers that betas have over us Alphas:

Beta Male Superpower Number 1: Beta males will cheerfully agree to things Alpha Males wonât.

Hereâs the simplest example. As an Alpha 2.0, I will never ever promise a woman absolute sexual monogamy. Yet every woman I date is surrounded by literally swarms of beta males who will happily chop off their own balls by promising this.

Many Alpha Male 1.0s wonât promise this either. The ones that do are lying (because theyâll promptly cheat), and most women know this, particularly those over age 25.

This means that if that hot girl really wants a guy who will genuinely promise monogamy, the beta male will win just about every time. If youâre an Alpha, youâre out, at least for a while. Yes, it is true she might be back, and/or itâs true you might be able to have sex with her while sheâs cheating with you behind the betaâs back. But the point is you lost her in the first place because the beta was around, ready to promise that which you would not promise (if youâre an Alpha 2.0), or could not promise honestly (if youâre an Alpha 1.0).

Monogamy is an extreme example, so feel free to replace âmonogamyâ with âmarriageâ or âliving togetherâ or âchildren right nowâ or âmove with me to X cityâ or âdonât have sex with me until weâve been dating for three monthsâ or âspend money on meâ or âdrive me around whenever I need to go somewhereâ or âclean my houseâ or âmake sure to comment nicely on all my Instagram picsâ or âtext me every dayâ or any other feminine demand you can think of.

As an Alpha, when you get a request or demand for this, youâll just laugh at her. But a beta will snap to attention, salute with a âyes maâam!â and happily obey.

Who does she then pick? Him. Not you.

Beta Male Superpower Number 2: Beta males will always consent to a womanâs Disney agenda. Alpha Males canât or wonât.

Just about every woman on Earth has a clear picture of what they want their perfect relationship to look like âsomeday.â Even most badass independent types fantasize about some kind of wedding or similar event, as well as some kind of long-term relationship with a Good Guyâ¢.

So she goes on and on about her Disney bullshit fantasy of a forever monogamous marriage with no divorce ever, with two perfect children, a rich and successful yet eagerly obedient husband and a beautiful home with a white picket fence right next door to her mom or her sister.

The Alpha Male 2.0 shudders with a cold chill when he hears all this and says no thank you.

Some Alpha Male 1.0s laugh and say hell no.

Some other Alpha Male 1.0s want some aspects of that, but then immediately start changing major components of her Disney fantasy, forcing her to compromise on her holy of holies. She feels pressured and hurt.

The beta male? He wants ALL of that, exactly as she’s described, with no changes whatsoever. Heâs down for every last piece of it and canât wait to get started. Heâs just happy to be with a girl at all. The details arenât super relevant to him.

So between these four choices (the 2.0, the anti-monogamy 1.0, the pro-monogamy 1.0, and the beta), who does she pick? Itâs no contest. She picks the beta. She kicks your Alpha ass to the curb, gleefully trots off down the street with that wimpy beta male to plan their extravagant wedding, and then you get depressed and send me an email asking me how to get her back.

Youâve heard about Alpha fucks and beta bucks, and itâs true. Women fuck Alphas and marry betas. Thatâs all well and good, and fun to joke about on manosphere web sites, until you as the Alpha have a girl you Really Like⢠who is Not Like The Rest⢠dump your sorry ass and go marry a beta.

I get a lot of emails from angry or depressed jilted Alpha Males who have been dumped for a beta. Yet itâs very rare that I get an email from an Alpha complaining he got dumped for another Alpha.

Still think betas have no power over you?

Beta Male Superpower Number 3: Beta males raise the bar to entry, particularly for older, more attractive women.

You want sleep with that super sexy 36 year-old woman, so you pitch a meet where you two go to a bar and have a drink. Your plan is to just talk for an hour or so, then move to either sex or a second brief date (and then sex).

The problem is that the last five times she went out on a first date, she went out with betas. These men bought her a fancy dinner, kissed her ass all night, spent hours and hours listening to her talk, bought her all the drinks she wanted, stayed out as late as she wanted, constantly told her how smart and pretty she was, and never tried to have sex with her.

Therefore, the above scenario is now the baseline expectation for what she expects a man to do. When you suggest âgo get a drink,â sheâs slightly confused, cocks her head to one side, and immediately counters with something much more detailed, expensive, and time consuming. You say âbarâ and she immediately suggests things like âdinnerâ or âgo see a playâ or at least a very safe, nonsexual âlunch.â If you stand your ground and stick with the âget a drinkâ idea, she actually gets a little offended. You’re some kind of cheapass player and not a “gentleman.”

Back before all these first dates with betas, she would have been happy to agree to a casual first date, and likely sex shortly thereafter. But because of years of getting her ass kissed by betas, she isnât down for that for that any more. She can get a better deal by blowing you off and holding out for a beta who will be happy to spend $150 on her for the privilege of spending six hours of listening to her talk with zero sex.

Using their beta superpowers, these five men have raised the bar to entry to her pussy for all future men, experienced Alpha Males included. I didn’t say you can’t have sex with her or that it’s “impossible,” I said the bar to entry has been strongly raised. Thanks to them, we now have an entire population of single 30-something women on sites like Match.com who regularly get free fancy dinners and hours of male attention with zero sex required, and in many cases get offended or even upset if you donât offer this to them.

Itâs a great deal for women. Itâs a mediocre deal for betas (who again are happy to have a date at all). Itâs a horrible deal for you. You now have to either A) stop dating women over the age of about 33 even if you still find them attractive, or B) massively jack up the time and financial expense your dating life requires, or C) massively jack up your activity and numbers, doing needle-in-a-haystack game to find the rare exceptions to the rule. Most men over 30 choose option B. I chose option A several years ago. Both are bad.

Still think itâs âno big dealâ that there are so many betas out there? Still think betas are harmless? Still think they donât cause you any problems? Still think they have no power over your dating or relationship life?

They do. Far more so than other Alpha Males. (Though to be fair, Alpha Males arenât blameless either…)

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Title The Power of Beta Males
Author Blackdragon
Date December 14, 2015 1:00 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Blog Caleb Jones
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