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Ignore What Women SAY – Only Watch What They DO

Blackdragon
May 4, 2015

I get a lot of questions like these:

BD, she said on her profile she only dates guys who are younger than 30. What should I do?

BD, she told me she never has sex with a guy until five dates. What should I do?

BD, she told me she would never have an open relationship, ever. What should I do?

One of the biggest differences between men who have dated a lot of women and men who have dated just a few women is that the latter category continue to believe that women communicate just like men.  News flash. They donât. Here I provide a handy translation guide to translate women language into English. You can also look at the comments here where some women fully admit that when women say certain words, like âstrong,â âcommitment,â or âindependent,â  they have completely different meanings than those listed in the English dictionary. (You know, that stupid old book we dumb men use to communicate.)

This is why, whenever in a dating or relationship scenario, you must completely ignore what a woman SAYS and only pay attention to what she DOES. Note that Iâm only talking here about dating and relationships. You can indeed rely on what women say in other contexts (like in the workplace environment). But in terms of romance and/or sex? No.

To be clear, you donât do this because women are stupid. They arenât. Women are quite intelligent and know exactly what theyâre doing.

You also donât do this because women are âlyingâ to you. They are not lying in the rational, male context of the word âlie.â When you marry a woman and she says âI will love you forever,â of course sheâs not going to love you forever, but she often means it when she says it. Later sheâll change her mind of course, but right now, she means it. Sheâs not lying to you.

You do this because women communicate completely differently than you do. So when she says:

âI never have sex with a man until weâve had five dates.â

…thatâs not what it means in a rational man world. If you translate that sentence in to rational man-language, it means:

âNORMALLY I donât have sex with guys until weâve been on five dates, because society has incorrectly told me itâs bad to have sex before then, and what society thinks of me is very important. But if youâre attractive enough to me and use strong enough game, I will happily have sex with you before then, as long as we keep it on the down-low. I canât actually say this to you right now, because it may blow my chances for some free dinners, and you might think Iâm a slut. So Iâm going to going with the societal model and act like I donât have sex with guys until five dates.â

If youâre not very experienced with a lot of women, youâll have no idea sheâs saying all that when tosses her head in the patented Strong Independent Woman⢠manner and says âI have a five-date rule.â

Crazy? Yes, but thatâs how women work. Get used to it.

If youâd like some more evidence of why you must ignore what women say and only pay attention to what they do, here are some real-life examples Iâve seen or experienced of how many intelligent, educated, mature women proudly, strongly, and clearly declared something in their dating/relationship life, and then proceeded to do the exact opposite.

1. A woman I was briefly dating told me unequivocally that her cardinal rule was that no man was ever, ever, EVER allowed to meet any of her children until she had been dating him for six months. It was her âsix month rule,â an absolutely rock-solid law in her life, she said. âMy kids come first, I must protect them, itâs not negotiable.â I didnât want to meet her kids, but apparently other men had asked.

We eventually parted company, and just one month later she had a new boyfriend. Almost exactly one month after that, she plastered a big picture on her Facebook page of her, her new 30-day boyfriend, and all of her kids, all going camping together.

This woman was in her late 30s, college educated, and very smart.

2. Another woman I was seeing in her late 20s, also very intelligent and college educated, once lectured me that she âdidnât do polyamory.â She ârespected herselfâ and âwould never do such a thingâ like âsome other peopleâ in the city were doing. She was quite emphatic about it.

As she was saying those very words she was dating and having sex with three different men; me and two others.

3. Numerous times, with numerous women of all ages, from 20s to well into the 40s, I have heard women on dates go on and on about all the horrible drama theyâve recently had in their relationships, work life, family life, you name it. Weâre talking hardcore drama that goes on for months or years. These stories are prefaced and ended with statements like, âI hate dramaâ and âI never do dramaâ and âI donât have time for drama.â

4. A woman once trying to get me to promise monogamy (before we ever had sex) told me very clearly that she âalways needed sex three times a week.â That was her absolute minimum. She was âvery sexualâ and was âembarrassed to admitâ she needed it âso often.â

She hadnât had any sex for six years.

5. This is one of my favorites. Numerous times, with numerous women of all ages, they will proudly declare, âI quit smoking!â or âI quit drinking!â or âI quit smoking weed!â âIsnât that great?!?â Theyâre always very excited about this and treat it like itâs a great accomplishment.

When I ask when they quit, they answer, âFour days ago.â

(What percentage of these women quickly go back to the cigarettes/booze/weed a few days later? About 99%.)

6. I once had a woman lecture me at great length about how she âmust be freeâ and how she could ânever live with a manâ and how other women who lived with men or married men were âweakâ and had trouble âfinding themselves.â She would never do such a thing, she said. As usual, she was very clear and emphatic about this. It was not just a casual statement.

A year later, we texted. She was living with a new boyfriend.

7. A woman I once dated said that âshe could never do monogamyâ and she was shocked how âdumb women wereâ who agreed to it. âYouâll eventually want to hook up with another guy! Why are women so stupid? Those women are just asking for trouble,â she would say.

About a year and a half after uttering those words she got monogamously married. She called me a jerk when I reminded her what she said about monogamy just a few months earlier.

(Yes, she later got divorced. Yes, she then came back to me.)

8. I once had a brief fling with a woman whose best girlfriend charged men money for blowjobs. She was horrified at her friend, calling her a âwhoreâ and a âslutâ and how she âdidnât have any self respect.â âI donât see how she can do it. I would never do something like that. I have self respect and Iâm not a whore. Disgusting!â

Two weeks later I texted her to hang out, and she said she would come over and have sex with me but only if I gave her $100.

(I declined her offer.)

9. I was once seeing an over-33 who strongly declared she had a three month rule. She had to have three months of consistent dates before she would ever have sex with a guy. (And you thought the five-date rule was bad!) She repeated this rule often. Of course I told her that her rule was insane and nexted her.

A little later we met up again (long story). She still strongly declared her three month rule.

We had sex on the third date. Total dating time before sex: 1.5 weeks.

I could go on with more real-life examples but hopefully by now you get the point.

Were all these women dumb? Insane? No. They just changed their minds. If youâve read my book, you know that women are biologically wired to change their minds. Itâs what women do.

If she can do a complete 180 on something she just said a few weeks ago, thereâs no point in taking what she just said as gospel. Thatâs why, in a dating or relationship scenario, you must always ignore what women SAY and only watch what they DO.

Make your choices and decisions based on her actions, never her words.

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Title Ignore What Women SAY – Only Watch What They DO
Author Blackdragon
Date May 4, 2015 5:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Blog Caleb Jones
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/blog/Caleb-Jones/ignore-what-women-say-only-watch-what-they-do.23198
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