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How Fast It Takes You To Do Something Stupid – Stimulus vs. Response

Blackdragon
July 29, 2011

Get ready for a very BIG topic and some deep analysis.  I hope you’ve had your coffee this morning.  ð

You have the power to choose.  You have free will.  Of course, it’s not quite as simple as that.  You have all kinds of powerful factors influencing your behaviors.  Biology, societal programming, your upbringing, your personality…all of these things powerfully influence your ability to make proper choices.

Regardless, you still have a choice.

Children and teenagers (and sadly some adults) have brains that look like this:

Stimulus and response.  There is no separation.  If they get their feelings hurt, they cry, period.  If they have sex, they fall in love, period.  There is no intermediate step.

Mature adults are a little different.  They have brains that look like this:

Now we have things like rationality.  Logic.  Self-control.  Discipline.   These things can (possibly) intercept action between stimulus and response.  We receive stimulus and then we pause and think about it before acting on our response. It’s very powerful.  It’s what makes Olympic athletes, great inventors, and self-made millionaires.  The ability to think before you act when life throws something unexpected at you.

There are levels to people’s “rationality step”.  Some people have none, some have some, some have a lot.

As I said, some people look like this:

This is the guy who falls in love (or at least gets very strong emotional feelings) immediately after having sex with a gal for the first time, or the woman who suddenly changes her college major after watching an episode of CSI.  Stimulus, response.  Nothing else.  It’s an extremely chaotic way to live.  I know people like this and I shudder every time I think about their chaos and drama-filled lives.

Some people look like this:

They’ve got some level of rationality, but there’s a limit to it.  At some point, the stimulus will be too powerful and crush their intermediate rationality step.  This would be the woman complaining her boyfriend of six months hasn’t proposed yet or the guy who converts to his wife’s religion when he gets married.  These people are miles beyond the “zero rational step” folks, but they still could use some improvement.

Truly rational, mature, disciplined people look like this:

These are the people who live the smoothest, most exciting lives and who achieve the most.  They feel the stimulus just like everyone else.  If it’s negative stimulus, they address it and clean it up fast.  If it’s positive stimulus, they sit back and enjoy it.  Then they base their actions on their own rationality regardless of the stimulus or how powerful it is.  I consider myself one of these people, and they’re aren’t many of us.

I’m not saying these people are perfect.  Far from it.  We don’t base our actions on rationality 100% of the time (otherwise I’d have the body of Jason Statham instead of something that looks more like Jack Black), but the vast, vast majority of the time we do.  Also, there’s a limit to our “rational step”.  If you tied up my children and threatened to torture them in order to get me to do something ridiculous, I’d probably do it, rationality be dammed.  But see how far you’d have to go to get me to violate my rationality?  That’s my point.

This applies to negative stimulus, like when someone angrily screams “Fuck you!” to your face, or positive stimulus, like when you win the lottery or have sex for the third time with some perfect new girl who is Not Like The Restâ¢.  It’s important to remember that both positive and negative stimulus are equally dangerous to your long-term goals and happiness if your rationality step is missing or weak.

Let me give you some examples.  I’ll use negative stimulus for these examples since I’ve already talked a lot about the dangers of positive stimulus (oneitis, marriage, NRE, etc).

Most people do things or say things when they’re angry that they later regret.  Many people are constantly doing this. Not a month goes by without them losing their self-control and having to feel bad about something they did when they were angry.  Or in rampant NRE.  Or really sad.  Etc.

While writing this I thought back to the times were I was so angry I did something or said something that I later regretted.  I had to think hard.  The last time was three years ago, back in late 2008 when the economy took a dump and I lost three big accounts all in one quarter.  I didn’t lose money in any of my investments (I never do, since I make rational investments instead of emotional ones), but man, my core business went into a tailspin that took me about four months of painful work to recover from.  That made me very mad.  I’m an INTJ and I hate it when well-laid plans get completely fucked up by uncontrollable factors.  During that time, yeah, I said some things to some people I regret.  Not a lot.  Just a few things.

So I thought again…what about before that?  The next time was wayyyyyyy back in 2001 when I was still married.  Our house had been broken into and robbed.  The bastards stole my expensive computers and electronics, my entire DVD collection, and my ex-wife’s jewelry and photography equipment.  Most importantly, the experience scared the crap out of my children who were both very small back then.  Boy…I was fucking mad.  I actually raised my voice in anger and pounded tables and shit.  I never do that.  My ex-wife and kids got even more frightened when they saw my reaction…because they had never seen me truly mad before (frustrated, sure…stressed, sure, but not mad).  I’m a big imposing guy with a loud voice.  Apparently I’m pretty scary when I get mad.  Good thing I’m a rational person and it doesn’t happen very often.

…and that’s my point.  In the last decade I can only point to a grand total of two situations where my “rationality step” did not work.  I’m probably forgetting one or two situations during my divorce, so I’ll be nice and say it was three times.  You can see how serious things have to get for that to happen.  Unlike most people it’s not a part of my regular life.  It’s a once-every-few-years type thing.

I’m just using anger as an example.  The same applies to stupid stuff people do while in NRE or “in love”.  It also applies to wrong action when people are jealous, frustrated, oneitisy, stressed, excited, joyous, sad, horny, or drunk.

“What About Being Human?”

Whenever I talk about living a rational life, some people get very concerned.  “Never getting mad or sad and always making the right decisions doesn’t sound very human.  It sounds robotic.”

If you never got mad and always did the right things and never got happy, joyous, or excited either, then yes, that would be very inhuman and Spock-like.  The goal here is to remove the negative emotions and events from your life but keep all the positive ones.

Never feeling emotions is inhuman.

Only feeling good emotions is SMART.

I’ll take it a step further…

Feeling bad emotions or going through bad situations YOU have caused yourself and then saying “Well, at least I’m feeling human right now” is DUMB.

See the difference?

Why are you here?  Why do you live?  What’s your purpose in life?  Is it to feel negative emotions on a regular basis and then whine about “feeling human?”  Holy shit.  I don’t think so.  I think it’s to experience positive emotions as often and consistently as possible, to give others positive emotions as a result, and to experiences negative emotions as rarely as possible.  Ideally, never.  (“Never” is impossible of course, but getting as close to “never” is a damn good idea.  I’m pretty close to “never”.)

If you’ve ever read any of my other stuff you know that “emotionless” is not a word that even comes close to describing me.  If I acted like an emotionless robot all the time, how do you explain all these women who stay with me for so long despite the fact they know I’m fucking other women?

I’m not emotionless, I’m rational.

I’m not robotic, instead I play the game of life intelligently and “purposefully” as Steve Pavlina likes to say.

As a result, I’m happy more often and angry and sad less often than the vast majority of people I know.  That’s a lot of people.

You’ll be successful and happy to the degree to which your rationality step is present and strong.  The smaller it is, the weaker it is, the more chaos and pain you will have, and the less likely you will accomplish all the things you want in your life.

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Title How Fast It Takes You To Do Something Stupid – Stimulus vs. Response
Author Blackdragon
Date July 29, 2011 9:01 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Blog Caleb Jones
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/blog/Caleb-Jones/how-fast-it-takes-you-to-do-something-stupid.23501
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