Thatâs what a guy in finance was talking about on a podcast⦠I didnât keep track of the original location, sorry, but the finance guyâs gist was something like, âIn America, we have these narratives that weâre given from childhood. People are still religious, but we donât really take our popular stories from holy texts anymore. We take them from Disney movies. The most common narrative when youâre a child in the United States is the little guy coming from behind. But when you get into investing, or any highly competitive arena, you realize that winners continue to win, and winning builds structural advantages. Youâre disadvantaged if youâre small. This is not a romanticized story.â
The applicability to game is obvious… to come from behind takes a supernormal amount of work, and it takes someone who wants to buck trends, be different, and concentrate all of his resources on winning.
Most people can only win in one field. I have been talking to a guy in the game who also wants to improve his financial position (a good goal). But it is going to be very hard for him to do the game in depth and to dramatically change his financial life. The guys who he sees winning, financially speaking, have usually been laying the groundwork for victory for many years, and doing a lot of work to get to where they are. âGood, high-paying jobsâ is a highly competitive arena where it is hard to come from behind, because other people have a variety of structural advantages built over years.
If you listen to rich, successful guys talk, a lot of them credit their wives for a lot of their success. Red Pill fanatics will reply to say those women are all cheating, theyâre all waiting to divorce the successful man and take his money, they’re conniving, etcâ¦. and while those things happen, I donât think theyâre the most common path for a successful, older rich guy. More commonly, a good woman will dramatically increase a manâs ability to succeed financially because sheâll believe in him, sheâll take care of the house, sheâll deal with the kid stuff. When heâs feeling down (everyone feels down sometimes), sheâll support him (there is a difference between sometimes feeling down and making your wife or girlfriend an emotional tampon). She increases a manâs ability to focus on other things, like his business and developing his skills. And of course for most guys, hunting for sex consumes lots of time, energy, and focus.
(Did you see the important word “good” in the paragraph… “a good woman…” a good woman enhances a man’s ability to achieve other goals, while a bad one is a burden.)
I am not suddenly pro-marriage, because marriage is a high-risk bet. If it blows up, the costs are sky-high. If it succeeds, however, the financial, time, and concentration benefits can also be very high. Some high-risk bets are good… this one seems net bad to me… and if a good woman enables a man to concentrate, talk to any divorced guy about what the divorce legal process does to his concentration.
Being good with chicks also has structural advantages. I know undersexed rich guys who canât get laid, for all kinds of reasons⦠they are smart, but they have terrible bodies. They have oriented their minds towards technical fields, so that they canât tease women, lead women, or connect with women. Womenâs psychology baffles them and seems like a world of smoke, mirrors, vapor, and hidden trap doors (which it is⦠players just learn to navigate and get night-vision goggles). Guys who really learn the female mind can do very well at f**king chicks.
Obviously, a guy with a lot of money can use that to buy personal training, buy personality coaching, or buy chicks directly, but that last one has a bunch of downsides and the first two still take a lot of time and energy, and no guy who is 37 is going to get his 20s back. He may âmake upâ for them in some way, but time goes on direction. Rich guys may not have the structural advantages the captain of the wrestling team had⦠or whatever example you want to use. Almost all guys who nail a lot of hot chicks have some kind of structural advantage. Could be a job that introduces them to a lot of hot chicks. Could be good looks. Could be exceptional charisma. Could be sex clubs (or, as I think of them, an undervalued market opportunity that most guys donât understand⦠investing in undervalued assets is how all those hedge fund guys got rich).
In popular narratives, the ugly duckling gets the girl in the end, who chooses him over the oafish jock. In reality, the oafish jock usually wins the pretty girl. âYouâre disadvantaged if youâre small.â And in popular narratives, the ugly duckling often isnât that ugly. We love to see the little guy come from behind. In reality, the solution is often literally to get big, by hitting the gym. Chicks respond to hot guys, more than they do to pudgy guys. Guys are more driven by pure body than chicks are, but chicks are too. A lot of guys absorb lessons from pop culture that are actively wrong.
Nailing hot chicks is a highly competitive arena with lots of subtleties, for most guys. There are naturals, yes. The guys who do it well (for a time, in most cases) often devote themselves fully to it. I have spent time (more time than I should have) explaining many of those subtleties in one area.
