*Men only*
Over the ages a lot of philosophers have lectured on the importance of knowing oneself. Setting aside any deeper mystical meaning some of them might have had in such statements, there is definitely a kernel of truth in this. As a man you need to be aware of your strengths, and your weaknesses, in order to effectively carry out your life’s whatever that may be.
For a man looking to attract and hopefully marry a worthy woman, knowing yourself is especially vital. For one, such knowledge might clue you in to a glaring weakness that would get in the way of your interactions with women. Second, truly knowing yourself can help you determine the kind of woman you want or need as a mate. Third, different “techniques” for interacting with women work for different men. A lot of the guys who dabble in things like “Game” and who meet no success are making the basic error of trying to use methods that don’t mesh with their personalities. They come off as unnatural because what they are doing is unnatural for them.
Even as you take the steps to get a better understanding of your own nature, you need to be careful. How you think and what motivates you might be very different from how others think or what might motivate them. All human beings have a tendency to project- to project our own beliefs, motivations and concerns onto others. I’ve written on projection before because it is an extraordinarily common tendency.
Men need to be especially careful with projecting when women are concerned. Women do not think as men do. They are motivated by different factors and forces- oftentimes ones that are seemingly indecipherable to us men. When a woman does something, be very wary about assuming that she is doing it for the same reason you would do it, or for the reasons a man would do it. Never forget that she doesn’t follow the same rules that you do. This is something which isn’t taught in the modern age, yet at the same time is something all men need to internalize. A lot (although not all) of the pain of the modern age comes from men not simply failing to understand women but from them assigning their own male motivations to women.
Don’t do that. You are a man. Women are not men, no matter the clothes they wear or the surgeries they get (and vice versa). Once you internalize that this difference exists, and apply a separate analysis to how women act, female actions will start to make sense like never before. This will benefit not only you, but also the other men, and yes, even the women in your life.
