If youâre a guy dealing with a break up, youâre probably sick and tired of people telling you itâs time to pick yourself up and move on.
Maybe you think they are right, or maybe you still believe that you should try to get her back.
Whatever the case, you know that you donât want to keep feeling this way forever. Yet, when youâre hurting, itâs often hard to see a way out of the dark place youâre in, right? You might even wonder if you’re ever going to be able to fully get over her. She’s always on your mind in one way or another.
Of course, youâre not the first guy to be dealing with a break up, and you wonât be the last, so why is it that some guys seem to be able to pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and get âback in the saddleâ within weeks of being heartbroken, and others find theyâre still not over it years down the line? The answer really comes down to a guyâs mindset.
Down and Out
At The Modern Man, We often hear from guys who are really struggling to move on after being dumped.
In most cases, the biggest barrier in the way is a lack of confidence. Being dumped can really knock a guyâs confidence for six and, depending on the circumstances, it can leave a guy feeling so low about himself that he doesnât want to risk âgetting back in the saddleâ for fear of being rejected all over again.
The safest option is just to stay down. Yet, of course, staying where he is isnât making him any happier and he knows he wants to find a way out of there, he just doesnât know how.
The way out of there is to regain confidence, and develop even greater self-confidence in your ability to attract new women. Do you know how to attract women when you interact with them? Are you able to enjoy your choice of women, or have you essentially gone through life hoping to “get lucky” with women who will give you a chance?
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to understand the importance of being able to attract women and how you can quickly develop that skill…
The One and Only
We also hear from a lot of guys who are not only dealing with a break up, theyâre dealing with watching the woman they believed was âthe oneâ for them walk out of their lives. They donât see how itâs possible to move on when their one shot at true love has gone and no other woman will ever be able to take her place.
A lot of people believe in the idea of a âsoul mateâ and that destiny dictates whether or not you meet âthe oneâ for you.
Thereâs absolutely no real world evidence to suggest that as humans we can only ever find âtrue loveâ with one person, but thereâs plenty of evidence to support the idea that itâs possible to find love many times throughout life, with each relationship providing its own unique love experience.
The key to moving on is to remain open to experiencing a new and different love with another woman.
Dealing With It
Okay, break ups hurt, thereâs no denying it, but going through life feeling lonely because youâre struggling to deal with a break up doesnât sound like much fun either, right?
Of course youâre going to miss your girlfriend and the relationship you had, thatâs natural, but the way forward is to stop thinking about how much youâre missing her and to begin thinking about what youâre missing out on by not letting her go! Youâre not happy where you are, so why deny yourself the opportunity of finding happiness again by moving on from where you are?
âEasier said than done,â youâre thinking, and youâre probably saying to yourself, âI donât think Iâve got the confidence to approach new women.â You might be right. Your confidence might have taken such a beating that you donât feel youâve got the âgutsâ to go out and start again.
Yet, what if you could regain your confidence? What if you could develop genuine self-confidence and eliminate all self-doubt from your mind? What if you could change your mindset and learn how to use setbacks as stepping-stones to better things and never experience a fear of failure ever again?
Doesnât that sound better than sitting around licking your wounds? Too right it does, and thatâs exactly what The Modern Man programs can do for you. Watch this free video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to learn how to begin building up the confidence to approach women that you find attractive…
Getting Back In the Game
Well, when it comes to dealing with a break up, the quickest way to get over it and move on is to get lots of attractive women interested in you and begin having sex with them.
Now, if your confidence is at rock bottom, youâre going to find it hard to imagine yourself in that position, but being in that very position is just a matter of taking action to regain your confidence and develop even greater self-confidence â you know what you need to do.
If youâre struggling to imagine yourself in that position because youâre holding on to the idea that your ex was âthe oneâ for you, itâs time to change the way you think.
The good memories you have of the relationship you had might make you think that youâll never find that kind of love again, and maybe youâre right, but that doesnât mean you canât find a whole new different kind of love with a new woman in a new relationship. One thing is for sure, if you donât make yourself available to new women, youâre never going to know.
When you learn to think like an alpha male, you learn to think like a man who knows he has his pick of women.
You become a man with genuine confidence; a man who knows how to approach women confidently, how to flirt and make conversation confidently, and how to escalate a conversation into a kiss, a phone number, a date, and sex. You become a man that women feel instinctively attracted to, in fact, they find you hard to resist.
They want to get your attention and theyâre prepared to work hard at doing whatever it takes to get it. Doesnât that sound better than sitting around licking your wounds? Too right it does, and thatâs exactly what the guys who pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and get back in the saddle within weeks do.
So, the choice is now yours. Do you want to get her back or do you want to attract and pick up new women to get over your ex?
