In this post, I’m going to talk about how to fix relationships problems from the perspective of a man.
A relationship between a man and a woman isn’t always going to be smooth sailing and sometimes there are going to be rough patches that a couple goes through along the way.
How they approach those relationship problems will either tear them apart or bring them closer together over time.
So, here are 6 relationship problems and how to fix them:
1. Boredom
Once the initial excitement of being with someone new has worn off, a couple may become bored with the relationship if they don’t really have much to aim for together anymore.
In the beginning, the aim was to go on dates, have sex, fall in love and see what happens. After that, the aim may have been to move in together and go on a holiday or vacation together.
However, once all that has been done and the couple has also been to most of the tourist attractions around town and been out to “dinner and a movie” 20 times, if they don’t have anything else to aim for, they might start to feel bored and restless.
So, part of keeping a relationship exciting and relevant to both of you is to always have something bigger to aim for together.
You’ve got to think about how you can take your relationship to the next level in a way that will be exciting, enjoyable or fulfilling for the both of you.
2. Constant arguing
All couples will argue at some point, but when a couple is constantly arguing, it’s often because they don’t realize that it’s okay to make communication and behavioral mistakes around each other at times.
For a relationship to remain happy, relaxed and stress free, both the man and the woman need to be able to give each other a chance to improve over time and get better at communicating and behaving in a way that leads to perfect harmony in the relationship.
Rather than expecting each other to think, behave and communicate perfectly all the time, the expectation needs to be that you’re willing to grow together as a couple and improve over time.
When a couple has that understanding, there’s no need for constant arguing and bickering over small things. Instead, a couple simply has discussions and gives each other feedback in a more patient and loving manner.
Knowing that you don’t have to be perfect 100% of the time, takes the stress out of being around each other. It also allows you both to be able to laugh at any mistakes you make, rather than thinking that it’s the end of the world.
3. Jealousy
For a man to avoid becoming overly jealous of his girlfriend (fiancé or wife), he needs to make sure that he is the type of man that she respects, feels attracted to and is excited to be in love with.
Watch this video to understand where some guys go wrong and ruin a perfectly good relationship…
When a man is able to make his woman feel a lot of respect, attraction and love for him, he will automatically be the sort of man that other women find attractive and appealing as well.
When a woman is with that type of man, she will always notice that other women find him attractive when they interact with him. She then doesn’t want to find herself a better man, because she knows that she already has the type of man that other women wish they could be with.
She might test her man’s confidence by pretending to show interest in other guys, or by talking about other guys who like her, but what she hopes to see is that her man remains confident in his attractiveness and appeal to her no matter what.
4. Lack of sexual desire
The sexual spark between a man and a woman will die out if the difference between their masculinity and feminine energy is neutralized.
For example: A lot of guys will make the mistake of turning their relationship into more of a neutral friendship, or expecting the woman to think, feel and behave like more of a man.
Rather than allowing her to be feminine, girly, emotional, irrational and act silly and unreasonable at times (e.g. throwing a tantrum), a man will often try to teach his woman to be more like a man.
Another example of when the sexual spark will die out is where a man will stop being “the man” in the relationship.
He will allow his woman to wear the pants and essentially take charge, because he is either too lazy or lacks the emotional masculinity required to consistently be the man in the relationship.
Some guys get annoyed at how easy it is for women, because all they really have to do is look pretty and follow the direction of a man. Yet, if women were to think, behave, act and feel like men, we wouldn’t find them as attractive.
Just think about how attractive you find butch, masculine lesbians compared to feminine, girly women. A man may want women to be more like men because it will be easier on him, but he then would miss out on feeling attracted.
It’s the clear masculine/feminine difference between men and women that make men and women feel attracted to each other. So, when a man and a woman become neutral around each other in a relationship or when a man is too lazy or stubborn to be the man, the sexual spark will die out.
So, if the spark has died in your relationship, then you need to go back to being a very masculine man. You need to be able to make her feel feminine and girly in response to your masculinity.
When you do that, both you and her will naturally feel attracted to each other again.
In the beginning of a relationship, a woman will often put up with a guy not being able to make her feel feminine and girly, because she is desperate to get into a relationship or because it’s exciting enough to be with someone new.
However, when a relationship gets past the initial stages, it’s extremely important that a man maintains (or creates) a clear masculine/feminine difference between himself and the woman. If he doesn’t do that, the spark will naturally die out and there will be nothing to feel attracted to anymore.
5. Trust issues
When in a relationship with a woman, you have to give her your full trust and then let her take care of it.
There’s no guarantee that she will be an honest, loyal, trustworthy woman for life, but giving your trust ensures that the love, respect and attraction between you can mature and deepen over time.
If you are unable to trust your woman, she will be turned off on a deep level by your emotional insecurity and she won’t be able to fully respect you as a result.
When a woman cannot fully respect her, she will be unable to feel the deeper type of attraction that grows over time in a relationship between a man and a woman.
If there other relationship problems in addition to trust issues between the man and woman, then she may begin to fall out of love with him and then either break up with him or cheat on him.
If trust issues are one of the relationship problems that you’re trying to fix, then you need to make sure that from now on, you are emotionally strong and brave enough to give her your full trust.
As a man, you need to be the braver, stronger one for the both of you. You can’t expect a woman to constantly have to reassure you of her devotion and commitment. You have to be strong enough to give her your trust and wise enough to know that there are no 100% guarantees with human relationships.
Something might go wrong in the future, or you and her might remain together in perfect harmony forever. It cannot be guaranteed.
However, the best way to ensure that the love, respect and attraction grows between you over time, is for you to be the emotionally stronger and braver one in the relationship.
Give her your trust and let her take care of it. Your trust will be left in her hands and she’s either going to abuse it or respect it and honor it for life.
Either way, you need to make sure that you remain emotionally strong no matter what. When she sees that you are emotionally strong enough and brave enough to give her that trust no matter what, it will make her feel a deep respect and attraction for you.
Of course, if your wife (girlfriend or fiancé) is a liar and you can’t trust her alone for 2 minutes with a guy, then it won’t matter if you give her your full trust or not.
If she’s a woman of bad character (i.e. disloyal, likes to hurt people emotionally, untrustworthy, etc), then she’s probably going to screw you over no matter what.
Is your woman an honest, trustworthy woman, or is she the type who lies and would cheat on you if she could get away with it?
If she is honest and trustworthy, then fix your relationship problems and make her never want to leave you…
However, if she is dishonest and untrustworthy and isn’t a good match for you, then you might want to think about replacing her…
6. Lack of respect
A woman can lose respect for her man for many different reasons.
For example, if he:
- Is too insecure.
- Belittle or criticizes her too often.
- Is docile or wimpy around confident men (e.g. at work, around friends, service staff at restaurants, etc), but then bossy and aggressive around her at home.
- Takes her for granted.
- Is too protective and controlling.
- Hides behind his true potential as a man behind the safety of their relationship (e.g. becomes a couch potato, distracts himself with pointless hobbies, etc).
- Always lets her win and get her way, or never lets her win or get her way.
- There are many reasons why a woman will lose respect for her man, but essentially it all comes back to him not being the sort of consistent man that she can look up to and respect.
The type of man that a woman can look up to and respect consistently throughout life, is a man who passionately goes after his true potential in life and pushes forward to success no matter how challenging it gets.
While he is doing that, he also makes sure to give her enough of his love, attention, respect and appreciation. He doesn’t push her to the side and take her love, respect, attraction and commitment for granted.
Do You Want to Stay With Her For Life?
If you’re committed to the idea of staying with your girlfriend, fiancé or wife for life, then make sure that you don’t sit around taking her love and commitment for granted.
A woman will often put up with weeks or months of unhappiness in a relationship, but she won’t put up with it forever.
What you need to understand is that it really is possible for a man and a woman to develop deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction for each other over time.
You don’t have to be one of those couples who break up or get divorced, or who end up hurting each other emotionally (e.g. cheating, emotional abusive, etc).
You can be one of those happy couples that you’ve seen who are still madly in love with each other 10, 20, 30 and even 40 years into a relationship.
That is what’s possible for you and her.
