If you’ve never had sex with her, then she’s not categorized as an ex.
Instead, you were in the friendzone and still are. Here’s how to get out of the friendzone if you never slept with her.
However, if you did have sex with her and also had a relationship along with it, then she is an ex.
In that case, here are 4 tips on how to get your ex back that you met online:
1. Make your online dating and social media profiles look more attractive
Women are attracted to men who are confident, happy and forward moving in life, with or without their woman.
This is why, if your ex sees that youâre happy and getting on with your life without her, she wonât be able to stop herself from feeling a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
One of the best ways to do that (especially if your ex is currently ignoring you) is via social media.
So, go ahead and update your profiles on social media with some new, attractive photos of yourself.
Don’t post up photos of you alone, of landscapes, your pets or your car.
Instead, post up photos of you having fun with other people, where you look confident and happy.
A woman feels attracted to that because it shows her that your confidence is not dependent on her, or on women in general.
Instead, youâre confident in yourself and can get on with life and enjoy it, especially after a break up.
By the wayâ¦
Some guys worry that if his ex sees him being happy without her, she will think that heâs not interested in getting her back.
Yet, the opposite is true, because even though a woman probably wonât admit it, she will absolutely feel more attraction for a guy who gets on with enjoying his life, compared to a guy who sits around feeling sad, lonely and lost after a break up.
So, just know this: When you post photos of yourself having fun with other people, rather than make your ex feel angry or want to move on, it actually makes her feel curious about the new you.
She then wants to interact with you again.
She may then message or text you to say âHi,â and you can then reactivate her feelings for you on a phone call and then fully get her back at a meet up.
Another tip for getting an ex back that you met online isâ¦
2. Get clear on the top 5 things about you that turned her off
If you want your ex to get back with you, the first step is to make some changes to yourself to attract her in the ways that are important to her.
However, rather than try to change everything about you (which can be overwhelming and make you lose hope), just focus on only changing the 5 most important things that turned your ex off about you.
For example:
- Youâre less insecure and self-doubting now, which means you donât feel the need to get jealous or control her anymore.
- Youâre more emotionally masculine, which means that you flirt with her and make her feel attracted, rather than treating her like a friend or pen pal.
- Youâre more emotionally mature now, which means that you arenât being childish and immature when you interact with her and in your life (e.g. messaging or texting like a girl with too many smiley faces and emojis, not taking things that are important to her seriously, messing around in your life and not having a clear purpose or direction).
- Youâre more emotionally independent, which means that you donât need to hear from her, or be with her, all the time to feel good and have fun.
- Youâre more emotionally dominant, which means youâre not seeking her pity or letting her walk all over you like she used to.
When she experiences those kinds of changes in you, she naturally drops her guard and opens back up to interacting with you more over the phone and in person, to see where things go from there.
So, just focus on improving those 5 things about yourself (i.e. the 5 things that are relevant to you and your ex).
Don’t worry about anything else.
If you improve those 5 things about yourself, it will make her overlook any other minor things that may have turned her off or made her question her decision to be in a relationship with you.
Another tip for getting an ex back that you met online isâ¦
3. Improve your understanding of what makes a woman feel attracted to a man when talking to him on the phone or in person
When trying to get an ex back, a lot of guys make the mistake of using the same old approach that they used before (e.g. being really nice and sweet to her, letting her call the shots during conversation, not standing up to her when sheâs being cold, bitchy or disrespectful towards him).
Yet, that approach rarely works to get a woman back.
Instead, it simply highlights to her that heâs still the same guy she broke up with and that turns her off.
So, if you want to re-attract your ex and make her want to be in a relationship with you, itâs very important that when you interact with her from now on, you give her a new and improved attraction experience.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are byâ¦
- Making her smile and laugh and feel relaxed to be interacting with you, rather than being too serious and trying to talk to her about getting back together again.
- Flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you and her, rather than acting friendly, neutral or distant.
- Showing her via the way you think, talk, act, behave and respond to her, that youâve truly changed and improved in the ways that are important to her, rather than hoping that she will just accept you because you shared some good times before.
- Believing in yourself and in your value and attractiveness to her, rather than feeling insecure and unsure of yourself and then making her feel turned off as a result.
- Being a good man to her, but also being confident and assertive enough to stand up to her when she steps out of line or treats you in a disrespectful way.
- Maintaining your confidence with her, regardless of what she says or does to make you feel nervous or uncertain of yourself around her.
Once she senses the changes in you by listening to how you talk and observing your body language and actions, she wonât be able to stop herself from feeling some respect and attraction for you again.
Even if she tries to hide it or pretend that sheâs not feeling it, she will be feeling it.
You can then build on those feelings and get her back.
Another tip for getting an ex back that you met online isâ¦
4. Contact her and get her to meet up with you, so you can re-attract her and get her back
To show your ex that you really have changed and improved and are a different man now, you have to interact with her on a phone call or in person.
When you do, she will be able to hear the tonality of your voice (e.g. do you sound confident or nervous), assess your behavior (e.g. are you sure of yourself or anxious) and see for herself that you really have become a better man.
This is why you need to contact her and begin showing her the new version of you.
For example: You might call her on the phone and start off by putting her at ease with talking to you by using some humor to make her laugh and smile and feel good to be hearing from you.
Then, once she has dropped her guard a little and is feeling more relaxed and open towards you, say something along the lines of, âAnyway, itâs been great chatting with you again. Itâs nice to see that we can just talk as friends, without it being about us getting back together or anything like that,â and let her say whatever she wants to add to that.
Then say, âLetâs catch up for a coffee sometime this week to say hi to each other as friends.â
In a lot of cases, a woman wonât immediately say, âYesâ because she wonât want to come across as being too easy.
She may also be worried that her ex might take it the wrong way and assume that she wants to get back together again, even though at the moment she doesnât.
So, she might say something like, âLook, itâs nice of you to ask, but I donât think itâs such a good idea. Weâre broken up now, so letâs leave it at that.â
Regardless of what she says, maintain your confidence and donât fall into the trap of doubting yourself and your ability to get her back.
Relax and confidently say something along the lines of, âHey, look⦠itâs just a quick cup of coffee as friends. Iâm not expecting you to fall in my arms and beg me to take you back â although Iâll be nice to you if you do (Btw. Laugh when you say that so she knows itâs a joke). Seriously though, I really do accept that weâve broken up and Iâm not going to push you into anything youâre not ready for. Itâs just coffee between friends. So, letâs do it. Letâs catch up to say hi this week.â
At that point she will probably agree and you can then go ahead and arrange a suitable day and time.
Just remember: When you meet up with her, you must be ready to say and do the types of things that will reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you, rather than being nervous and unsure of yourself and turning her off again (e.g. maintain your confidence around her regardless of whether sheâs being nice or cold towards you, put her at ease by making her laugh and smile, let her see some of the changes in your behavior and attitude that were lacking in your relationship together).
When she can see that you really are a new man, she will naturally begin to open up to the idea of getting back together again.
Common Mistakes Guys Make When Trying to Get an Ex Back That They Met Online
To get your ex back, you need to make sure that the approach you take from this moment onwards is going to be sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you and making her feel that if she doesnât give you another chance, she will be losing out.
This is why you need to avoid making any of the following mistakes that some guys make in a situation like yours and giving her more reasons to stay broken up:
1. He sends her a message, she doesn’t reply and he then loses confidence
Sometimes a guy will send his ex a feeler message on social media to just say hi and see what she will do from there.
If she responds to him, he will naturally be happy and take it as a sign that sheâs open to getting back together again.
However, is she doesnât reply, he will likely feel a bit rejected and he may then begin to think things like, âWell I guess I have my answer. Sheâs obviously not interested in me anymore if she doesnât even want to reply to a simple message. I need to accept that I wonât be getting her back, ever.â
Yet, thinking like that only causes him to lose confidence in himself and in his value to her.
He stops believing that it is actually possible for him to re-attract her and gives up on the idea of getting her back.
What he doesnât realize is that heâs the one giving up on getting her back, not her.
Yes, she might have ignored his message, but that doesnât mean sheâs not interested in getting back together.
The truth is, there are many reasons why a woman might ignore a message from her ex.
For example: She mightâ¦
- Not want to appear too desperate.
- Be testing him to see if he is truly confident enough to continue trying to get her back, even when sheâs not making it easy for him.
- Be nervous that if she shows that sheâs happy to hear from him he will then reject her to get revenge for her breaking up with him.
As you can see, your ex not replying to a message from you isnât a good enough reason for you to lose confidence and hope and give up on getting her back.
So, donât make that mistake.
Instead, just believe in yourself and focus on getting her back, regardless of what sheâs doing or not doing to put you off.
Another mistake that guys make in a situation like this isâ¦
2. He contacts her to express his feelings about her
In some cases, a guy makes the mistake of thinking that if he tells his ex how he feels about her, she will suddenly start thinking, âOh, I never realized how much he cares for me. Well that changes everything! It makes me want to give him another chance right away!â
Yet, that pretty much never happens. Why?
If a woman doesnât feel respect, sexual attraction and love for a man, then him pouring his heart out to her and telling her all about his feelings isnât going to matter to her.
Instead, she may even feel that heâs being selfish, because all heâs thinking about is how he feels and what he wants and not thinking at all about what she wants and how she feels.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
Your ex will only care about your feelings when she has strong feelings for you.
So, if you want to get her back, donât waste time expressing your feelings to her and focus on sparking her feelings for you instead.
Just give her what she wants (i.e. to feel strong surges of romantic and sexual attraction for you) and you will get what you want (i.e. her in a relationship with you again).
Another mistake that guys make in a situation like this isâ¦
3. He updates his profiles and hopes that she makes the first move
Sometimes a guy thinks that if he makes himself available on social media (i.e. by constantly updating his profiles), his ex will begin to miss him when she sees it and she will then contact him.
Yet, hereâs the thingâ¦
When a woman has lost touch with her feelings of love, respect and attraction for a guy, chances are, sheâs not going to be spending a lot of time checking up on him on social media.
However, even if she does because sheâs curious about what heâs up to, sheâs usually not going to do more than look at his profile.
The truth is, most women wonât contact an ex after a break up, even if they do still have feelings for him. Why?
Firstly, a woman doesnât want to come across as being desperate.
Secondly, she doesnât want to help him get her back by making things easy for him.
Instead, she wants to see if he has the confidence to make the first move, even if it seems as though sheâs not interested.
If he does, she will automatically feel surges of respect and attraction for him again for having the balls to go after what he wants in life (in this instance, getting her back) regardless of how difficult it may have seemed to him.
However, if he waits for her to come to him, he may be waiting for a long, long time.
Another mistake that guys make in a situation like this isâ¦
4. He overanalyzes her posts or any changes she makes to her profiles
Making a big deal about your exâs every move on social media is the fastest way to make yourself start doubting your chances of getting her back.
For example: A woman might post something like, âBeing single is the best! Check out the photos of me and my friends at a party this weekend.â
Her ex might then wonder, âDid she post that to take a shot at me? Was she hinting that I donât stand a chance with her?â
On the other hand, she might post something along the lines of, âFeeling sad and lonely today,â causing him to think things like, âMaybe she misses me after all.â
Yet, hereâs the thingâ¦
Not only will constantly trying to understand your exâs state of mind with every post that she makes drive you crazy, it will also not get her back.
So, a better approach is to forget about her social media habits and focus instead on actively making her feel respect and attraction for you again.
Thatâs what really matters.
Another mistake that guys make in a situation like this isâ¦
5. He makes the same or similar attraction mistakes when he contacts her or interacts with her, so she closes up and isn’t interested in giving him another chance
If you keep trying to get your ex back by using the same approach with her that you always have (e.g. allowing her to call all the shots, treating her like a friend, putting her above yourself in terms of value), she will most likely continue to push you away.
So, if you want to make her want you again, you need to focus on making her feel respect, attraction and love for you again, by showing her via your actions, behavior and the way you respond to her, that youâre a new and improved man now (e.g. more confident and self-assured, more emotionally independent, more emotionally masculine).
When you make her feel attracted in new and exciting ways, she wonât be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
Her feelings of respect and attraction for you will naturally begin to resurface, whether she wants them to or not.
You can then build on those feelings and get her back, without her even realizing sheâs falling in love with you all over again.
