When a guy is saying, âMy girlfriend said she loves me, but broke up with me,â it doesn’t actually mean that the relationship is over.

If you are in a situation like that, what you need to do is work out why she has really broken up with you and then switch gears to begin making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.

Here’s a video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) that explains what you need to do and why…

Women Rarely Say What They Mean

It would be nice to think that when a woman says âI love youâ and then breaks up with her boyfriend; itâs simply because sheâs feeling confused, or worse, because sheâs a cruel liar. In reality, she knows exactly whatâs going on with her and has spent a long time sending off warning shots to let her guy know that sheâs not happy in the relationship.

In most cases, during an argument where she is clearly trying to let her guy know that sheâs unhappy about his attitude or behavior, a guy will latch on to a positive statement like, âI love youâ rather than pay attention to the real issue at hand.

For example, a woman might say, âI love you, but if you donât stop watching TV all the time and go out and do something with your life Iâm going to leave youâ or âI love you, but your insecurity and clinginess is driving me crazy!â

While she is trying to let him know that he needs to fix certain things in their relationship, heâs avoiding the issue with a false sense of security. Then, when she breaks up with him, he feels surprised and even betrayed. Heâll say, âMy girlfriend said she loves me, but broke up with me. I didnât even see it coming. Why didnât she TELL me she was unhappy?â

The truth is: She did tell him.

But a woman isnât going to spell it out for you. Sheâs going to give you hints and then she expects you to be man enough to figure the rest out for yourself. If you donât âget the messageâ she will eventually break up with you.

Again, sheâs not going to say, âIâm breaking up with you becauseâ¦â and give you a long list of reasons. Sheâs going to let you down as easily as possible, by saying things like, âI just need some space to sort my life outâ or âItâs not you, itâs meâ or, âI really love you but I just canât be with you right now.â

Why does she do that? For 3 reasons:

  1. She doesnât want to put herself in a position where he might become aggressive or violent.
  2. She doesnât want to give him the opportunity to talk her out of her decision, by promising to change if she gives him another chance.
  3. She doesnât want to âmotherâ him and have to teach him how to be the man that she needs him to be in the relationship.

If you want to get your girlfriend back and make her feel respect, love and attraction for you as a man, youâre going to have to dig deep and find the REAL reasons why she broke up with you.

Did You Know There Are 70+ Reasons Why a Woman Will Break Up With a Man?

In The Modern Man program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System, Dan Bacon explains what these 70+ reasons are. It’s too much to explain here, but here are some classic example reasons why a woman will break up with a guy:

  • Being clingy, needy and insecure.
  • Being jealous and possessive.
  • Taking her for granted.
  • Not having a clear direction and purpose in life.
  • Letting her âwear the pantsâ in the relationship and allowing her to make all the decisions.
  • Not making her feel the way she wants to feel in a relationship.
  • Failing to maintain and grow the respect, love and attraction between him and her over time.

Luckily though, it doesnât matter how bad you think you messed up, most things you can fix pretty quickly or even immediately, but itâs not going to happen by itself. You have to be willing to put in a bit of work.

If you arenât willing to do anything or change anything about the way you interact with her, donât bother trying to get her back because sheâll keep saying, âI love you but I canât be with you right now,â until she meets another guy whoâll give her what she really wants in a relationship.

If you want to get her respect, love and attraction back, you need to figure out the real reasons she broke up with you, so that when you speak to her again you can let he know that you truly understand where you went wrong.

When she realizes that she doesnât have to âmotherâ you anymore and that youâre actually âmanningâ up, she will naturally drop her guard and feel more open to interacting with you, because youâve made the effort to figure out what went wrong in the relationship by yourself.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Of course, figuring out where you went wrong is not going to be enough. She has to see that youâve fixed your issues and improved yourself. Iâm not saying you have to fix everything and become perfect â no one is perfect â but you do have to become a stronger, more well-rounded version of who you are right now.

The best part is that fixing issues like insecurity, a lack of self-confidence, a lack of purpose, etc., is going to benefit you in all areas of your life. Not only will your girlfriend feel more respect, attraction and love for you as a man, but friends, family and colleagues will react differently (in a positive way) to you too.

However, you canât approach your girlfriend and say, âI know where I went wrong in our relationship. If you come back I promise to change those things.â She doesnât want to know that you WILL change; she wants to know that youâre already working on those things.

Her love for you is still there in the background; when you change the way she feels about you, she will become open to reconnecting with that love.

You Can Get Her Back if You Really Want To

You can sit around feeling hurt and saying, “My girlfriend said she loves me, but broke up with me,â or you can do the many things Dan Bacon teaches in our revolutionary program Get Your Ex Back: Super System, which will make her feel differently.

When you make her feel differently about you and get her to see you in a new (more positive) light, she will automatically begin to feel more open to the idea of being your girlfriend again.

It really is possible to get another chance with your ex girlfriend. Yes, you still have to do the work, and yes, some of the things you need to do to get her back will be easy, while others will require a bit of effort.

Either way, when sheâs back in your arms looking at you with renewed respect and attraction and is telling you, âI love you,â this time youâll know she means it and that sheâll be with you as long as you want her.

Isnât that a worthy goal? Are you willing to do what it takes to get her back?