Why women often lack respect

A commenter at Dr. Helen's inadvertently sums it up in a nutshell:

Lot of men grow up learning that if they want something, they have to get it themselves. They have to manipulate the physical world.

Lots of women grow up learning that it's a hell of a lot easier to manipulate a PERSON instead of the physical world. Get a guy to do it for you.

When you do things for yourself, you learn to respect yourself and others tend to follow suit. When you get others to do things for you, you learn to develop expectations of others and others tend to conclude that you're a useless and demanding individual. This is not conducive to developing respect.

So, if you eventually want to be respected by others, either do things yourself or learn to do without them. There is a word for a person who is constantly asking others to do things for them. That word is "child". And while people may like children and harbor great affection for them, they don't respect them. They just don't.

Manipulate the environment, not others.