Men want sex and women want attention. This is a very important RP lesson and I learned this one the hard way (sort of).

Since 2014 came in, I've been spinning a number of plates, but two girls in particular stood out. Both are are Uni students each living in different cities from me (but both of their schools are located in the same city less than an hour away).

I don't want this to look like a seddit FR so I'll cut right to the meat.

Girl #1: I texted to greet her a happy new year on New Year's Eve, and we exchanged about a dozen messages over the course of the next week (first week of the year). This was a big deal for me because I'm the type of person who never sends text messages -- check my phone and you'll find unanswered/unread texts and even unanswered phone calls.

One day, I decided to text her through an online messaging app instead (because it's free). The next thing I know, we've been talking to each other over text pretty much every night, and it has been two weeks since we started.

Over text we'd decided to meet twice already. The first one was cancelled because her final exams got moved to an earlier schedule which coincided with the day of our meet (this is legit, I asked a friend from the same Uni). And the next one was this morning, but it never happened. Basically, she hasn't gone online on the app for the past 48 hours and when I texted her last night (actual SMS), she didn't reply. Then when I woke up to ring her earlier today, her phone was off. I thought that perhaps there was just something wrong with her phone or whatever -- nope. I tried again this afternoon and it rang and rang, but she wouldn't pick up.

Long story short, I guess I'm gonna have to drop this unicorn. And I think it'll just be a wasted effort to keep struggling to find out why this is happening when we'd been happily conversing for the past couple of weeks. Thinking back on it now, it's easy to see that I got the short end of the stick. I pretty much kept her entertained for the past two weeks, and what did I get? Zilch.

Girl #2: Meanwhile, this other girl never got a text from me this past New Year's Eve. I've been texting her only when convenient, and usually just send one-word replies to her texts to me. And all my texts to her were almost always about when we were going to be able to meet and spend time together.

I think we exchanged about a dozen and a half messages in total, before I got her to agree to have sex with me on the first date. Well, we met yesterday. And it turned out that she was a virgin. Since she was 19, I wasn't surprised.

What surprised me, though, was the fact that I convinced her to not only pay for the hotel room, but even pay for dinner afterwards. I walked her to the train before we parted ways and have only texted her once after, and I sent it this morning. She's texted me five times today, so I'm planning to send one after writing this post. I'll probably just text to tell her when we can meet again next week or something.

Lesson learned: As men, one of your most prized possessions in the sex/dating game is your attention, so give it sparingly. If you don't, or if you give it away with very little to nothing in return, you may end up regretting it. Know when and to whom you should give it, however, and you will surely reap the benefits. It's like with women and sex. They are loathe to give it away to the wrong person (beta bux). But will siphon away all the attention that they can at every chance that they get, if it serves them.