Hey all. I've been a RPer for about 1.5 years now. In that time, I was married, then divorced, plate-less, then excess plates. I currently live in a guesthouse (moving out next month) and there are always new girls coming through. However, throughout the process there are plenty of times where I'm lost in the game dept. or when I backslide.

Recently, was trying to get this local bartender that seemed to show a bunch of IoIs. Stuff like her coming into my bed after she gets off at 4am to wake me up, but not do anything except when I kissed her once about 2 days ago (she didn't reject, but didn't keep going). The next day she came by in the morning and I told her, "Let's go to a Hotel" in which her reply was basically she thought we were just friends.

Now, there is this very feminine HB9 that came into the house recently. Good point for me is that her friend (from back home) had stayed at the guesthouse before and talked me up to this girl so she knew who I was before I met her. I'm trying NOT to get friendzoned by this girl, but it's very difficult to get her alone in a house full of people and our conflicting work shifts (I work 8am-5pm, she works 4pm-12am).

My question (because I don't think I'm in the friendzone yet) and actually a question to stay out of the friendzone in general, how do you show interest without coming off as needy. All while not making others not uncomfortable (not trying to get kicked out of the place).

For example, what my mind is telling me right now is just be like, "I like you", but from game I've read that's a no-go. We live in Japan (she knows no English and my Japanese is conversational) and I might not be the best at deflecting shit tests in Japanese. She does give off IoIs frequently, hearts after my name on texts, made me drinks last night, replies to my texts quickly. But I know if I don't jump on this, I will lose it. But with scheduling conflicts, makes jumping on it a lot more rough.

Foreseen answers: Oneitis related, Abundance Mentality.

My question isn't directly related to this chick. I do go out and make new friends, meet new girls (even as recent as 2 days ago), but my problem is with situations when a girl isn't a random stranger.

P.S. I'm not the most eloquent writer, so if you need any clarification, just ask.