I feel like a total newb for asking this question as I'm usually the one giving the advice in this sub, but there's still an aspect of "game" I haven't mastered yet: turning a ONS into a friends with benefits relationship.

I am your stereotypical lone alpha. Late 20s, fiercely independent, tons of hobbies, sports, and a job that keeps me busy, and I enjoy the company of women to fill the gaps in my free time. I've never in my life been in a monogamous relationship. I have 14 notches so far this year, but either they or I have lost interest into turning fun nights into anything more.

Until now. I'm growing a bit tired of constantly prospecting for new leads and I have two girls that I'd like to see on a more regular basis.

One is an innocent Turkish girl, 25, here as an au pair. I'm the second guy she's ever been with, and she only lost her virginity a year ago. I've seen her twice, once on a short date at a bar and the second time I invited her over for dinner and fucked her. Wants me to teach her everything about sex and I've told her she owes me dinner this Friday.

The other is pretty much my ideal type. Petite 20-year-old black girl, 5'3", 100 pounds, intelligent and high-achieving, from an upper-class family. Came over to my house on the first date where she proceeded to reveal her inner freak and have me do everything imaginable to her: choking, biting, ass-slapping, anal. Supposed to be coming over tonight to pay me a visit.

Strangely, with as much confidence as I've handled these two girls on the first meet, I'm kind of clueless as to how I keep them around and turn them into plates. Bear with me for some really dumb questions:

  1. Is there some sort of a conversation that happens, or do we just keep inviting each other over until a natural relationship develops?

  2. How should handle my communication with them? I'm not a wordy texter, I'm brutally honest and fond of saying things like "Come over", but at the same time, I don't want to be reviled for making an overt booty call. How sexual can I get via text?

  3. Is it reasonable to invite them to do things with me outside of the house, introduce them to my friends, etc., or does this put them too much in the girlfriend window?

  4. How often do you guys meet up with your plates? Once every few days? Once a week? I'm guessing when it falls down to once a month, they're no longer a plate?

  5. Who initiates meetings, you or her? To be honest, I'm super lazy and I hate planning. I'd love to have a couple girls on rotation that basically invited themselves over whenever I was free.