Okay, I am going to start by saying I am no where near an expert at TRP, But I have been reading a lot about it and incorporating it into my relationship. I have been in a LTR for sometime now, I didnt like the control my gf had over me and took TRP to change it. It was a rocky road at first and I made a lot of mistakes and still am learning but I saw a couple people post questions about this and I thought you can learn a little from my mistakes and successes and how it changed my relationship for the better, anything is up for discussion in this, and by no means am I saying I am an expert I am just offering up some of my ideas on TRP.

When in a beta type relationship and choosing to take TRP, the number one "tip" to abide by is:

1.) Be patient, Stay calm and cool. ALWAYS

When you go from having limited or no control, or obsessing over your girlfriend to trying to change all that, it will NOT happen over night. A couple mistakes I made was reading so much on here and then hanging out with my girlfriend trying to implement them all at once. It was a disaster! It lead to fights, long lonely nights, and her saying "Wtf is wrong with you? why are you acting so weird." It felt so uncomfortable and out of place for me. Then when It didnt work I lost it and started a stupid BIG fight that made me think "WTF am I doing this for?"

When trying to make this change things will go wrong and you will get very frustrated, but you need to ALWAYS stay calm, and be patient. If you need to walk away do it calmly or take a couple days away from her to get your thoughts straight, do things that get your mind off it and make you happy! After all the way you react to all this is YOUR control.

2.) Dont force it!

Taking TRP when in a LTR is a process and you need to take it one step at a time. I started by Forcing all these rules and expectations on her all of a sudden, and it didnt work for shit.

I feel the best way to get the ball rolling is to continue doing what you would normally do, be your fun self, be the person she feel in love with BUT when she does something that is crossing the line or disrespecting you, something you dont like, right THEN you address it. But when you do this do it CALMLY and firm. "I dont like that you did/said/acted that way" If she keeps doing it you calmly remove your attention from her and do something you would do if she was not there.

If she starts asking all these questions just say you felt disrespected and you wont put up with it. Make her earn your attention. And by this (another part I fucked up on) I mean if she is acting up dont show her the love and affection you normally do, dont get mad, but dont give her that normal attention. BUT that doesnt mean if she is trying to have fun around you and showing you love, that you should withdraw your attention so she keeps showing hers. Eventually she will stop. You are the leader Keep her happy and having fun when shes around and she will return the emotions. But be ready to withdraw if need be.

3.) Taking TRP during a LTR does NOT mean it will fuck up your relationship.

Im sick of seeing post on here about "be ready for this to fuck up your relationship" "If you dont do this she will cheat on you" "Youve been with her for years, JUST LEAVE HER"

Just because this takes time and might not work right away does NOT mean that your girlfriend is unchangeable and your relationship is DOOMED. I read so much of that when I started that it fucked with my head and made things worse! If you keep your cool frame and have patients and understanding you can make this work! This doesnt mean it will ALWAYS work. You may come to find that you really are unhappy in this relationship or your girlfriend doesnt not care about you as much as you thought. I feel TRP really will show you that. It will not fuck up your relationship if you do it right, but it may shine some unseen truth on it. With that being said you have to prepare yourself to Walk away if NEED be. Prepare yourself to be OKAY even if she leaves you or vise versa. You will always be able to find someone else and this will help you find better next time. Heart break sucks but it doesnt last. Keep moving.

Some of you may be saying I cant imagine my life without her though! I felt the same way and for this you may need to walk away just for a few days with limited or no contact just so she can find out what might happen if she loses you. I told my gf that I needed a couple days to myself that I will see her that following weekend, she couldnt handle 2 days without me. It really made her realize I need to fight to keep him, because he is okay with leaving me! (during these days I had limited text contact and showed no sign of bad emotion)

BUT if I would have listened to half the post on here I would be single a long time ago. "Just leave her!" come on guys theres better ways to fix this! Which leads into my next point

4.) Do not spend all your time reading about this!

I spent so much time reading all these post and getting all these different opinions and answers about questions. I didnt know who to listen to and had me thinking all day "TRP said to do this, or I need to do that or my gf will cheat on me!" Dont get me wrong there is some really good stuff on here, but too much is no good. You need to get your basics down take action and ask questions later. I would recommend reading "the book of pook" and go from there. If you fill your mind up with all this stuff you are likely to over think, which will bring you out of character. Get off of here and go do something productive!

5.) Be a leader

This is the main point when you read about TRP, which I think is fantastic but you still need to slowly work your way into it. You can not go from not being one, to trying to call all the shots right away, it will back fire. Start by leading yourself, by this I mean look out for yourself and do what you want to do if your gf didnt exsist. Join the gym, read books, go out, try new shit. Then start bringing her along, but dont ask her, tell her you are doing X and want her to come. If you are realllly beta and have almost no control, make suggestions of things youd like to do together. If she shuts them down, take a day to yourself to do it without her. When you want sex, dont ask just start playing with her. Lead and she will follow.

I wont go too much more into depth on this topic as it is pretty self explanatory and there is a lot of post on here about it. But one thing I did find trouble in with this topic when I was trying to take TRP. I explained to her that what was going on was I was not going to be disrespected by my own girlfriend, that I wanted someone who was going to WANT to satisfy my needs, and I wanted control over the relationship. She explained that she is very dominate and thought it should be 50/50 or what I like to say 100/100. I took some time to think about this and I agree she is my girlfriend and she should have a say in things. BUT when it comes to your needs and respect do not tolerate anything otherwise.

NOW my girlfriend tells me she doesnt want to disrespect me, she WANTS me to tell her when shes acting up. She WANTS to Do ANYTHING to keep us together. Big turn around from how this relationship started.

6.) Communication

This is huge for me, me and her both cant read each others minds. If something is bothering me I tell her right away, so she knows what shes doing wrong, I also encourage the same for her. We need to talk about anything that comes up to keep us both on the right path. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable, say how you feel but dont bow down to her. A LTR takes a balance of beta and alpha traits. Woman are suckers when you can give them strong emotions and then take it away without being affected by it, it keeps them on their toes and keeps you looking interesting. With communication comes honesty, always be honest about how you feel and the things that bothering you, but dont let her disrespect you for telling her that. She should be able to be honest too, encourage that.

The only time I do not recommend communicating is when she doesnt get her way and trys to act like something is wrong. If you think something is wrong, ask her once if she is okay if she says yes dont pressure her into telling you something that might not even exist. Let her handle it herself and leave her alone. If there is something wrong she should tell you and you should be able to handle it accordingly

7.) ME time

ME time is good for both of you, You should let her know there are going to be times you want to do things alone or go out with just the boys and respect and encourage her to do the same. It shows you arent attached to her and keeps things fresh.

Beware of this though, girls will try to sabotage your ME time, at times. For example I go to the gym everyday after work. My girlfriend text me 2 hours before I get off work asking me to come over to eat dinner with her sisters. She knows I always go to the gym and already had plans after. I explain I always go to the gym she knows this, "not today maybe another time." She tries to shit test me and make me feel bad for not going. I am calm and firm and tell her I will call her later on when I am finished and that was the end of that. EVEN if she acts weird after I continue being my funny, cool, non reactive self and she will eventually cut the shit. If she doesnt distant yourself until she does. Talk about it if you have to.

Last and the most important one!

8.) BE HAPPY! ALWAYS!

relationships are supposed to be fun! TRP helps you take control of things so that you have a more stable relationship/life. Its up to you to keep things happy and interesting. Never let anything get you angry when it comes to this stuff because it just looks bad. Be happy and be in control, if you are happy and fun around her she will be happy and fun around you. She will feed off of you! In the beginning for me I was so in my head thinking about all the things I and she was doing wrong, we fought, we were both unhappy at the time to the point I had to unsubscribe from this sub because I felt like it was fucking up my relationship. It wasnt until I stopped and realized i have a hot amazing girlfriend because i am the shit! So I continued to go back to being the shit but didnt let her disrespect me, and now she hardly ever does. She is my best friend and I feel like the "honeymoon" stage has never stopped. If you continue to work on yourself and she continues to want to please you TRP LTR will stay amazing! You both need to understand that and not get lazy! You cant stop working on yourself and she cant disrespect you. Other than take TRP get in control and be happy! Thanks to whoever read this, sorry if I started falling off at the end Im tired from a long day of work