Lately I’ve had a few women in their late 20s (I’m in my late 20s too) recommend that we ‘get a coffee.’ These are more sophisticated types, who are put together with good careers and don’t really drink heavily. Definitely not trash bags.
Anyway, I’ve had them on the slow burner for a little while and haven’t asked either out yet; we run in the same social circles, so I don’t want to get blown up before I’m sure they’ll be receptive. In other words, I’m treating them differently than the typical hoe you meet on the street or online. I’m engaging in more casual conversations than I typically would.
Can someone put their coffee suggestion into the womanese translator for me? I just don’t know what getting a coffee means. Are they trying to take the initiative and show interest, because I haven’t made a move or asked them out yet? Or is this some friend-zone bullshit, because I’m talking to them too much without escalating or asking them out?
For what it’s worth, I don’t see any reason why they wouldn’t be physically attracted to me. But I haven’t been overly sexual with them either. I don’t have a history of getting friend-zoned, but I suppose it’s possible here. Also, I know I should probably just shoot my shot already, but I’m trying to buy a little more time for a couple reasons I won’t get into now.
Thoughts? Advice?
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