One of my plates is losing interest because I got sloppy. Mostly my fault. Tried a needy bootycall one night. And texted her some dumb needy shit another night. It’s been a couple weeks since we hooked up now.

We actually went out last Friday but she dropped a bomb on me when I picked her up. Technically only our second date. She said “I’m sorry but just so you know I have plans after this.” Needless to say I was pissed and the date didn’t go very well. Got a quick drink then I dropped her off. We were supposed to go out to dinner, but I said hell no when she said she had other plans afterward.

She apologized profusely after. I should just next her, I know this, but I only have two other consistent options right now. This girl isn’t all that, but she has a nice apartment in the city that I selfishly want to crash at sometimes. If I was living in the city (moved back home recently), I’d next this bitch so fast her head would spin. That said, I want to keep using her for sex and lodging lol. Plus she’s tiny and kinda funny. I do enjoy spending time with her, but won’t be the end of the world if I lose her.

Anyway, seems pretty clear her interest is waning. It’s fine if it ends, but I’d like to salvage it if that’s an option. Part of the issue in my opinion is I gave her some shitty dick last time we hooked up. Thought I had her hooked so didn’t really try. Now I’m stuck between two potential strategies.

Option 1 is try to set something up next week. Something way less effort than going out to dinner on a Friday night. Like I might text her on Monday and ask if she wants to hang out that night. No real plans other than the obvious sexual overtones of “hanging out.”

Option 2 is leave it alone and see if she ever texts me first. She said she wants to hang out again, but at this point, I doubt she would text me first. Even though she’s booty-called me before. Because of my prior needy behavior, I’m thinking the only way to “win her back” would be to let her come to me. Usually doesn’t work well when the guy chases. But the other part of me thinks if I could dick her down good, she’d be right back in line. So that’s where I’m torn.

If I ask her to hang out Monday, I might be able to get her craving me again. But I also run the risk of losing frame and seeming desperate, considering she just pulled a pretty fucked up move last Friday. And if I don’t ask her to hang out, pretty sure she’ll move on. Although I’m honestly not sure. Her words say she’s sorry, but her actions say something else. She would’ve gotten out of those other plans Friday night if I was Brad Pitt.

Thoughts?