I’ve had oneitis for this chick for a couple months now. Yes we’ve slept with each other, she’s funny, we get along well, etc. I’ve slept with other girls but can’t get myself to enjoy their presence the same way.

Anyway oneitis chick has been losing interest for a while now due to some mistakes I’ve made, as well as my current job/living situation. Last night she flaked on me 30 mins before our date because she was feeling sick. She listed all her symptoms and it seemed true but who knows / who cares.

It’s kinda the last straw for me. We haven’t seen each other in a month now (both traveling for a bit then I went no contact for two weeks before she reached out). Then she flaked on this date we set up after she reached out.

Her words say she’s interested but her actions don’t. Well, I’m not going to let her string me on any more out of respect for myself. That brings me to the point of this post.

After she cancelled yesterday we talked about rescheduling. I hit her up this morning asking if she wants to reschedule for this weekend or next week. She hasn’t responded and I can only assume she won’t.

So, I’ve been thinking about sending her this:

“Well unless I’m way off seems like you got some other stuff going on now. We can shelve this. I only hit you up cause you hit me up last week. But no need to end things on a sour note. I think you’re cool even though you’re a nerd. And I think we have fun in person. So who knows maybe we’ll catch up later

Ps get that epilepsy checked out lol”

Basically I want to end things so I don’t have to think about whether she’s gonna text me, I can put her in the past, focus on other girls, etc. Don’t really want to go no contact and keep it open ended again, cause then she’ll occupy too much of my mental energy. Also think she has a long distance boyfriend she has feelings for and that’s playing a part.

What do you guys think about sending that message? Even though I still like her and I’d continue seeing her if she became available again, I think it’d be better for me to just cut it off amicably. Thoughts?