This month is all about inner frame, or self mastery of your mental and emotional states. There are a lot of moving parts to this one, so it'll be posted as a 3-5 part series, starting with part 1.

Dominance

In everyday interactions, a person is either dominant or submissive. This means that you are either in charge, or not. You are either the leader, or the follower, the Alpha or the Beta, in command, or taking orders. Clear yet? Good then, moving on.

Masculinity is directly correlated to dominance. One of the most basic components of being a man is achieving that dominance; over nature, over his fellow man, over his whole world, (yes, especially over his sexual partners)

But how can one achieve this? Surely we all have bosses, everyone answers to someone? I get that, but as a man, you need to build and exert dominance where/whenever you can

Some ideas/ suggestions for increasing your dominance;

-Physical At the very least, be dominant over your self. Eat right, exercise, develop great style.

-Social Build social dominance by having high social value. Throw the big parties, make friends with the club bouncers and the bar owners. In short be the man to know.

-Work The toughest one. Most of us work infields which necessitate a boss, or senior partners, or clients. Two ways to minimize this;

-Be indispensable

-Start your own business/ Work for yourself

Anger

In modern society, the prevailing opinion seems to be that anger is unnatural. It's bad for your health to be angry, they say, if you are angry, or god forbid express your anger, you are maladjusted, you're told you should 'talk to someone'. If seeing a shrink doesn't work, you can always be pumped full of drugs like Xanax and Prozac, maybe even Ritalin, that kill your ability to feel anger, or anything else for that matter. The underlying current here is that anger is somehow unnatural, its wrong, and if you feel anger something is wrong with you mentally.

That's B#llshit

Anger is a natural, emotional response to problems. Anger is a signal that something is not as it should be, something is in your way. The trick isn't to not feel anger, but to do something about it. Use your anger to fuel the changes that need to be made. I've found that most situations which illicit anger can be broken down into 2 categories;

-You're not good enough: The anger is internal, directed at yourself. The only way to deal with this is to get good enough. Stronger, Thinner, Smarter, more sociable. Become what you want to be.

-You're getting f*cked over: People aren't here to look out for you. The world is a tough place for a man, especially if he isn't tough. You need to stand for what is yours, say no to bullshit, and get aggressive for your interests. No one else is going to do it for you.

Month 3 Part #1 Challenge: Identify your level of dominance in each of these three areas. What makes you angry? What can you do to harness that anger and solve the problem?