This past week has been quite the ride for me, so I wanted to share it in field report form.

One thing I want to emphasize is that interactions like what I'm about to explain seemed impossible to me 5-10 years ago, but only since then have I gone through a process that has landed me where I am.

In other words, being a masculine man is a journey. While the following is just one in a LONG list of girls I've notched, I'm making this post to emphasize that obtaining a woman of the following quality was only attainable after I became a "quality" guy myself (by "quality", I refer to having high rank in the sexual marketplace. I don't mean quality as in "nice" and "honest" aka some Feel Good Bullshit).

Using Couchsurfing, I've landed dozens of girls over the years. Recently, I've garnered myself somewhat of a Ripe Fruit ('Ripe Fruit' is the new term I'm using for a rare, high-quality plate instead of 'Unicorn'), who has become the subject of a few of my past field reports.

For the Asian bros here: I'm Asian. She is Asian, born and raised (Hong Kong, so fluent in English too and lived abroad). She likes Asian guys. So let's put that out there right now, Asian-American RP bros: Don't sell yourselves short (if you are, stop whatever excuse you're hiding behind).

Field report list-style:

  • Dedicated Met her a few months ago. Banged her then (see field reports). She was so infatuated that she just skipped school to come to spend 2 weeks with me. She is skipping exams and important shit.

She also follows me to the gym or park everyday when I workout. She follows me to work on the subway to "see me off" and then turns around to go back home to clean my apartment.

  • Isn't a golddigger (Actually the opposite) Gave me a $400 watch for my birthday (I haven't given her anything so far). She cooks me breakfast of eggs and tomatoes every morning. Takes me to a movie after work every other night (she paid for both). She buys me fresh fruit everyday from the market and then has a bowl waiting when I get home. She just bought me a $200 Chinese dinner at a hotel last night.

  • Freaky in bed, and out of it The other night, she gave me a full Chinese style massage after the gym, followed by licking my body all over and then a blowjob with CIM finish, after which I just fell asleep. She prepared a fruit salad for me when I woke up. She often randomly starts giving me blowjobs when I'm at my computer to "get my attention". She wakes me up with sex every morning.

  • Has interests Like I mentioned, she is very artsy fartsy and loves indie movies, british alt rock groups, french DJs, classical music, video art exhibitions, design museums, etc (pretty much the epitome of the modern urban east Asian woman).

  • Alpha fucks Beta bucks holds So she must also like the sensitive, artistic man and I'm just an outlier, right? ("everyone has preferences, you pig!")...Nope. She actually can't stand the men associated with her own hobbies. She says they're "creeps" and recounts stories of when she lived in France with greasy "romantic" guys hitting on her all the time by offering shit like wine and gallery tours (come on, french bros...). She often points out random guys on the street wearing their capri-style pants + leather moccasins and how "unmanly" they are compared to my jeans + tight t-shirt (because put a muscular guy in any clothes and he'll look good; despite /r/malefashionadvice, there's no "hacking". A fat girl in skinny jeans is still...well, not skinny).

My point is that frame is everything, and it cannot be simply turned on/off like some "checklist" you go through; it must be your identity. When it does finally all come together, girls will do shit like this for you. I've evolved beyond wanting to prove anything about myself to her. Self-respect > Pussy. I'd walk away or kick her out before I'd let her get away with insulting, shaming, or challenging me just so I could get laid.

Am I "patriarchal" in my interactions with her? You bet I am. I give her a role to play to implicit boundaries, and she loves it and responds with laughing, happiness, and then sucking my dick to wake me up.

Lastly, if you are a female reader: show me a man who says he doesn't like this type of woman, and I'll show you a man with whom you wouldn't want to sleep with in the first place.

Here's another version of the post on my blog