How can I improve my quality of life?

ihaphleas · 2015-07-16T07:52:56+00:00

Travel.

Riddick_ · 2015-07-17T04:41:10+00:00

Define Goals. Take Action. Lift. Repeat.

sharmalarm · 2015-07-17T01:32:56+00:00

Motorcycle. Travel. Go out of your comfort zone.

Schindog · 2015-07-16T08:26:31+00:00

More for your reading list:

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi

Triumphs of Experience by George Vaillant

redpill-visceral · 2015-07-16T15:59:14+00:00

First, know what you want. Plan the future, set goals, but focus on the present and work hard day in - day out.

Take action on the present moment.

Discipline yourself.

Create routines.

Have a career, but think as an entrepreneur, think about your future company, think of ways of doing things. Entrepreneurship is the road of unknow, it's the risky path.

Silenuslaughed · 2015-07-18T04:14:20+00:00

Books are bullshit. Find a group of other men, particularly oldschool men, and do something with them. Join a club, sports team, drinking group, AA group, etc. Become a regular at a restaurant, bar, or gym. Speak to people, even if you sound bad. Don't let your obsession with being perfect / improving cripple you from putting yourself out there. Most young guys these days are almost as terrified of looking stupid/ignorant/weak in front of male strangers as they are of looking stupid/ignorant/weak in front of attractive women.

Edit: in this case books are bullshit. In general they're good, and they provide you with an academic background for a practical problem. Social skills are not purely academic. You have to work your way up old school -- helper, apprentice, journeyman, master. 'Cept instead of becoming an electrician or welder, you're learning to be a man.

crosenblum · 2015-07-23T02:31:48+00:00

Been where you are, still am to some extant.

The books have some advice that may be good.

But that matters shit if you don't do something.

But I've been in that boat, doing nothing for years upon years, and wonder what happened to my life.

You have to make a choice, are you willing to live an unfulfilled life, and accept the least you can get from life?

Or are you finally going to get off your ass and do something.

For me it involved a few of the following steps.

Go to meetup.com or similar sites, start going to local meetups, just to meet people. Have no expectations, just see what comes.
Look to volunteer, there's tons of sites like VolunteerMatch.org where you can find a way to volunteer help someone out and meet people and feel good about yourself.
Start excersizing, any kind, any how. Just do it.
Make a weekly plan and to do list. This is something I learned from working experience, when I keep a daily record of what I want to get done, and what I did get done each day, I know that each day, I have accomplished something.

If anything do this one the most.

Feel good for every day that you did 2-3 things. Whatever they were, it wasn't an empty day.

ichivictus · 2015-07-16T07:46:24+00:00

Check out Real Social Dynamics. That's what helped me the very very most transition and I still continue to grow thanks to RSD. It focuses on self improvement using PUA as its vice. So as you self improve you do better with the ladies so you'll see a constant improvement as long as you stick to it and can battle resistance.

Books to check out if you haven't already:

Linchpin by Seth Godin

War of Art by Steven Pressfield

Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

JihadDerp · 2015-07-16T13:24:14+00:00

The book "how to win friends and influence people" will help you immensely in the social realm. Career wise, pick something you don't hate and work realllllllly hard at it

RemyPrice · 2015-07-16T10:56:32+00:00

How to Create a Happy Life

List things that make you happy.
List things you do every day.
Compare the lists.
Adjust your actions accordingly.

“Only extraordinary people are willing to look and see where they are not.”

-- Jerry Baden

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