In the past i created A LOT topics on asking how to be dominant man, how to handle other dominant males within a group(or overall), how to build that confidence to attract people to you, but it turns out i don't have the foundation.

It turns out i secretly expect from other people to act in a certain way. To respect me. Like me. Love me. To do what i tell them.

It's like looking for approval, but much worse, it's making background contract in my head that claims and demands people should respond to me in a certain way. When they don't the result is devastating, leading to negative self-talk, demotivatation... even depression.

First step to solving a problem is finding out what the root cause is. In my case it was due to getting bullied in high school, as well as not so great parenting, asshole relatives and probably many other factors that were out of my control, what is in my control deciding what I'm gonna do about it, now that i realize all of this, but i need your help.

I heard (RSD)Tyler once saying we do not control the first 20 years of our life... Parents, peer groups, social circles... Everything is arbitrary. I believe hes right.

My question is, how do i stop secretly demanding from people to behave in certain way?

I know its out of my control, but my theory is that due to HS bullying i expect everyone to treat me nice and with respect, which is unrealistic, but i can't handle it. I care too much about how they perceive me as well.