I'll try to keep this as brief as I can. I'm pretty new to this, so please bear with me. I would post this to /r/seduction or /r/askseddit but I don't feel like I'm beta enough. /r/asktrp feels like the right place.

I've been going to a specialist for a few months to have an infection looked at. The doctor's assistant (easily an HB8, maybe even 9) has been doing most of the work on the affected area.

We've had some pretty good conversations, and she's been fairly enthusiastic about talking to me. I've cracked a few jokes at her and we've had some very solid laughs together. In July, we had a really good conversation, and even expressed some similar interests (beer and "angry" music, and I'm assuming she means heavy metal but have yet to get that out of her specifically).

She was giving me eyes and smiling and blushing and whether she actually wanted to or not, I got the impression that she was wanting to climb up on the seat and fuck the hell out of me. I did my best to stay cool, but I was feeling some massive attraction and it seemed like it was mutual.

Then SHE pipes up and asks, "would you mind if I found you on Facebook?" Of course I said, "sure," and told her that I would drop her a message because I had my privacy settings cranked up.

We talked about double-dating, and we both talked about a particular laid-back wine + jazz bar in the area that we want to check out together.

I left, and sent her a message. I got brave. Extremely brave, and flat-out told her essentially "let's fuck," in a long message. I did my best not to go overboard, and just pointed out a few things about our conversations, and was quite blunt. I told her that I thought it was best to get this up-front before we cringe became friends.

No response, and it still has yet to be marked "seen" by Facebook.

I realized I had her email address (when I set up appointments with the doctor). And even though I'd gotten responses from her in the past, I sent email to her from 2 different email addresses to see if she got my Facebook messages. No response.

After sending these brief messages, I managed to remain calm and focused my attention elsewhere.

Fast forward to early September. I have another appointment. One of the first things out of her mouth when I arrive was something to the effect of "OMG I'm so sorry I've been trying to write you back!"

She explains to me that she was getting "undeliverable" errors when she tried to write to my email account. She made it seem all very plausible. Especially after she hands me her phone and has me add myself to her Facebook.

Then she darts out of the room to go to an appointment of her own.

Since that time, I've cracked some seriously witty jokes at her (poked fun of the doctor who is a straight-laced kind of guy for giving us medical marijuana when she left) and had her laughing her ass off.

I sneak in "You there. Yes you. I like you. You laugh at my jokes! Careful now, or I might get the impression that you were so eager to add me on Facebook because you felt there was a little bit of a connection there and you just wanted to see if you could pick up on me!" Her response is, "Lol:P"

I change the subject and start talking about heavy metal and making up the 2 months of lost time. I try to fire her up about getting together and partying hard. I babble a little bit, but I manage to keep it somewhat short. She doesn't say anything in response, which kind of surprised and disappointed me a little, but I look at it like I got a little ahead of myself and I didn't really give her an opportunity to respond.

Then, her great-grandfather dies and I offer my sincere condolences in private. I'm very careful not to apologize for my previous statement, which ended up slightly awkward because of the timing. She tells me that she really appreciates it.

Again, it still seems she has yet to see my original message to her on Facebook. I actually have 2 accounts: one strictly for gaming and one for friends-only. I sent "let's fuck" via my gaming account (which I've created to be exclusive and rather sexually charged), but added her to my "friend" account. I was thinking that she was shit-testing me to see if I would add her to my gaming one while we were face-to-face. In retrospect, I probably should have, but I balked. But for what it's worth, it played out exactly how I had expected it to before I went in.

I don't have any hangups about her being married at all (and honestly I don't get the impression that she does either). And I want my cock inside of her, but I'm willing to ride things out and see what happens.

Even if I don't seal the deal, I look at it as a great experience, and great practice. It's a long shot, but it seems like if I play my cards right, I could have her eating out of the palm of my hand (sex or not), which would be a huge confidence boost for me. I don't feel at all intimidated by her husband, and while she clearly loves him, he does kind of strike me as kind of lame (also, he's not on Facebook which seems a little odd to me). They both grew up in a small town together so I'm thinking she felt he was the best she could do, considering.

Thing is, I'm moving. She knows this, and I've even invited her to come party with me. She has friends that frequent the area I'm relocating to and she seemed to be surprisingly enthusiastic with a tinge of sincerity about taking me up on the offer.

Because of this I am committing to lifting weights every day from here on out as the cornerstone of my inner game. But I'm at a loss as to what to say to her and how to play her.

One thing I should mention is where I'm at mentally, thanks to /r/nofap: instead of thinking "does she want the D?", I'm thinking "do I want to give her the D?" Babbling no doubt wasn't attractive, but I caught myself and stopped. It's only been a few days since we last talked, but I'm distancing myself at this point.

Where to go next?