Today a coworker I've been hitting on left because she resigned (which actually made me happy because I didn't close because I didn't want to screw things at the place and it would have been hard to soft- or hard next her and I view this happening as a "go" ;)).

Whe had a chat in the kitchen about a couple of hours before my quitting time.

When she left she told me to tell her goodbye before I leave.

I told her, while making relativly clear I was joking by behaving and smiling, something like: Depends on my time since my schedule is very packed.

She then turned around and told me: Stop being so cool.

From how the situation evolved I can tell she really meant being cool, not acting like.

I couldn't think of a decent answer so fast and asked "Why?" in an overacting surprised way.

She then told me: It's not nice! Turned around and walked away.

While I don't really care about her opinion about me in particular I am a little bit worried about the fact that my daughter's mother recently also told me twice in two weeks that things always sound too easy when she bothers me with her drama and troubles and I tell her some simple things to fix it and a final "It will become better".

So is there

A) the a danger of seeming to be too unaffected by things?

And B) a better reaction when being accused of being too cool?

And if so: which?