A little background. I'm in my 20s and new to TRP and as per TRP suggestions I have just started reading NMMNG. A lot of what I'm reading so far has really resonated with me so I'm trying to apply what I'm reading into real life. Anyway back to the field report.

So today I posted a fairly controversial status update on facebook. Got a bunch of attention and comments. Interestingly enough an old interest of mine comments on the status and I like her comment. She then texts me on my cell trying to talk more about the status and I basically say something like, "That was my opinion. Just sharing it out."

That conversation dies so she starts up again about this guy at her work who's in his early thirties who she wants to get with as she thinks he's so hot. So I basically say to her that she's got no shot as he's in his 30s, making money and probably has a few 20 y.o. plates who are HB8s or above that he's spinning (just going off the SMV chart on therationalmale.com). She then goes on to say, "So what. I can be his next." I then say to her, "Well no cos you're not an 8. To me at least." She then follows up saying, "Looool you're so mean. You're basically saying I'm ugly." at which point I say, "No I didn't say that. I was just being honest. Men are visual creatures and I'm giving you my opinion as a man but hey, maybe he feels different."

This is when things take a turn. Next thing I know she says to me, "You've changed. You used to say I was the most beautiful girl in the world to you. Who's an 8 for you anyway." So I respond saying, "Well I've done a lot of soul searching and I'm done spewing bullshit. As for the 8 I'd say [name] was a strong 8. Hot but that was all she had going for her really." She then responds to me saying, "You're just nasty. You're never gonna get a wife with that attitude." and I say, "Well that works for me as I don't plan on getting married. If I can just fuck around NSA for the rest of my life I'll be happy." She says, "Lool. You're just a miserable human being. I feel sorry for you" and I say, "Why? I'm actually happy with myself." 2 mins later she says, "I'm really skeptical of that." so I say, "Meh. Believe me if you want to." to which she responds, "You're just really harsh to me. Probably cos I didn't want to be with you." At this point I'm finding this quite amusing so I say to her, "Lol. Are you for real." and she says, "Yea. There's so much negativity in you. You're probably just really unhappy with yourself." I then say, "I'm not gonna lie. Was really unhappy with myself for a while but now I feel a lot better. I have been soul searching after all." She comes back with, "Yea well it's probably fake soul searching and you're probably kidding yourself. One day you'll be happy I hope". I then respond saying, "It could be though it doesn't feel like it. And like I said I am happy and I'm doing a lot better now. Maybe you should stop taking things so personal." Next thing I know she starts sending me pages of text along the lines of, "I don't take anything personal. There's a fine line between being rude and being honest. I don't go around saying you're a 3 (notice how she gave me a number when all I told her was that she wasn't an 8). It's not something you go around doing. And besides I'm not ugly anyway." So I then respond saying ,"Well I wasn't trying to insult you. I am allowed to have my opinion and I gave it to you. If that's how you feel you're just as entitled to an opinion of your own. Besides I've said what I said. How you want to take it is really up to you." 10 mins later she replies saying, "I couldn't care less about your opinion. You just don't go around saying that to people. It's not being 'honest'. People are going to think you're a dick (I don't get which people she's talking about seeing as it was just her and I talking)." So I say, "Well I guess I'm a dick then. I'm really not bothered. Like I said take it how you want." She then says, "I don't care what you think about me. I'm talking in general terms." Now I'm genuinely confused. She's gone from personally attacking me to talking about something which (to me) seems completely off topic so I ask her, "Broader terms? What is this really about?" She then replies saying, "I'm so over this convo. You don't go around putting people down. You're a sad sad person. Bore me later." at which point I'm just like, "Um ok then. Bye."

Personally I don't get where the personal attack came from. I didn't assign a number to her and I wasn't trying to insult her. I will admit to having some interest in her back when I was still plugged in. It didn't work out and I did move on. At this point there are literally zero feelings towards her so I can't be bothered if she talks to me again or not. I just want to know if I really was mean to her in my attempts to hold frame and how I can go about dealing with a scenario like this better in the future. Any advice would be really appreciated. Like I said I'm new to TRP so the lines between being an asshole and being alpha are still kind of hazy to me. Would love to get better at this. Cheers!