So some chick is crazy for you, but you want to move on. You can simply cut-off contact, but an extinction burst from her can introduce a lot of drama that you want to avoid.

Potential dangers from crazy chicks include (but oh god, certainly not limited to)

  • Accusation of rape (especially if you were leading like an alpha or had rough sex)
  • Showing up at your workplace and making a scene
  • Slashing your tires or otherwise damage your property
  • Lots of crying. On the phone, at your friend's places, workplace, etc.
  • Getting your common friends to talk sense into you

All these can be inconvenient and time consuming to handle, so the best option is to prevent it and provide a gentle landing.

A simple strategy is to dial down her attraction to you using beta behaviors. My experience is that this works excellently. However, follow these rules:

  • First, tell her its over because you are moving/have injured your groin/its wrong (the reason doesn't really matter, but it should have some sense of truth) but also tell her you will continue to keep in touch. Often, this is the only step you need.
  • Beta behavior should occur when no one other than the intended target can observe. Or else, it may impact your overall status.
  • Neediness and insecurity work very well and the change will be subtle enough that she won't even notice.
  • In the beginning, she'll probably enjoy extra attention, so don't start with being overly available. Neediness needs to come first. When she loses attraction (and you can read it), extra availability and asking to hang out very often may work to accelerate loss of attraction.
  • Ask her to never call and you will do all the calling. This is simply so that you control the pace and predictability of interaction.
  • Be predictable. Always meet in the same place at the same time, do the same thing, order the same food.

In about 4 to 6 weeks, she should be mostly over you. If you were her first, this may take up to a year or more (yes, its true)

FR I: Very nice girl, I was her first. I simply moved to a different city and it was a perfect reason to exit. I called once every two months, asked about her feelings and so on. It was two years before she even looked for a different man.

FR II: Technically not a plate. Girl at work and I had obvious attraction on first sight. Great rapport, we talked an hour every other day and went for afternoon walks. However, I have a strict don't shit where you eat policy and I was beginning to slip. I've noticed how much even a passing interest in someone at work will impact your performance and what you think are subtle actions and mild interest is loudly obvious to everyone. People talk and this is a big problem. I'm a high status individual with many people reporting to me and any attention to a particular female is highly visible.

So I did the following when it naturally came up in conversation: asked her if she prefers me clean shaven or with a stubble (neediness), asked her to come to one of my talks (more neediness), asked her what qualities she likes in a man and then asked her if I have any of those (asking her to qualify me), asked her to rate my project most interesting in a survey and so on. Very rapidly, her attraction declined. She turned down my invitation to our regular walks! twice! She also became "busy" and had no more time to chat. The entire process took about three weeks. Note that despite my high status I was able to push her away. Neediness is extremely powerful.

Once you push her away, you need to keep at it a few times with some regularity (again, make it predictable). If you declare success and ignore her, she may be re-attracted. Eventually you can stop and she will be neutral enough that you can resume a polite interaction if and when you need it (like at work)

Another observation here was that although the separation was successful, I was surprised to find myself down with a mild case of oneitis. This was a bit fucked up and it was the first in 20 years but I realized it was obviously due to all the investment I had made earlier. Lesson learned, don't get close to chicks from work no matter what. I got rid of the oneitis by mainly focusing on my mission.