Hey guys I'm writing this story as a warning and as advice.

I was with my ex gf for 3.5 years. She was a solid 9, and willing to put in work to look sexier, ie: I suggested she start working out, she did. I suggested she go blond, she did. I suggested she wear more revealing clothing; she did. She was even open to plastic surgery and dressing up in costumes for me in the bedroom.

I am naturally alpha and when we met I was basically spinning plates, this was before I even knew what that was. She was with some hardcore beta. At a party one night she sends me a txt telling me she wants me to 'take' her.

It was fucking unreal. Anything I wanted her to do, she'd do it, she was my complete and utter fuckdoll and she loved it and completely loyal to me. Everything else about our relationship was good too, for a time. I really believe at that time she almost worshipped me.

However things took a downward turn about 1.5 years in. Due to my youth and immaturity I got into a ton of financial problems and had to drastically downgrade my lifestyle - to the point of struggling just to buy groceries. I was forced to take a job I didn't want to help get my ass out of debt. I was working 50 = 60 hours a week every week, for a cunt boss, and still had no money for anything, most of it had to go to debt.

Problems between us started to increase. Simple every day interactions became tense. It became harder to get her to comply with simple requests. She started to go out on her own when I was exhausted from work. Under all the stress I started to lose frame.

Big mistake.

I knew I would have to work for another year solid to even get myself remotely close to a decent lifestyle. Just when I started to turn it around things between us go from bad to worse. She starts shit testing me CONSTANTLY and over the tiniest things. She starts getting her friends in on it to challenge my frame too.

I knew deep down inside she wanted the lifestyle I'd had when we met and resented me for the following 2 years that really were a struggle. Being such a passive girl this was her way of saying she wanted out. Her perception of me had clearly changed - at the start she worshipped me and I could do no wrong: flirt with any girl, stay out late, come home drunk and fuck the shit out of her, she would cook and clean for me, drive me around when I was hungover - the more of an alpha pig I was the more wet she got, no word of a lie.

However when she saw MY attitude change towards life (resenting work, frustrated about money, letting my workout routine slide, being less confident and alpha and my biggest regret - complaining about shit and feeling depressed) she in turn became resentful of me and started to challenge me constantly. It was a drastic shift.

With my energies so utterly focused on fixing the problems in my own life I slowly let my relationship slip away. Each time we had made a turn to get back the good times she'd shit test me again and I wouldn't handle it well.

The dynamic had completely changed. Instead of her being the hot girly girl along for a ride in the alpha's life, it was now her having to be a strong woman supporting her down-and-out man through 'tough times'. It was a disaster. I conceded to much ground, I didn't lay down firm boundaries and I didn't reassure her calmly that in a very short time things would be good again (what is 2 years in a lifetime?) Instead I got angry back at her for being so shitty toward me in this tough time.

She broke up with me on Valentines Day after 3 years together. It was extremely hard to deal with and recover from - my ego took the biggest blow.

Sadly I actually now am out of debt and have a new job that I love making more than I made when I was with her. I really would have preferred to salvage the relationship because I had found what I wanted in a woman, every need was met. Now I have to watch from afar while douchebags and lesser men circle around and compete for her.

Lessons:

  1. make sure you handle your shit because your problems will make her resent you

  2. Don't be naïve and think she 'understands' what you are going though - she wants to come home to daddy and know everything is going to be ok.

  3. even when things are rough never let go of your alpha frame - she is still your woman and should still do the same things as before

  4. you can make this period easier if you calmly and confidently reassure her - if she see's you stressed, she'll get stressed, and you'll be fighting a battle on all fronts

  5. Never EVER be passive about anything in the relationship, be pro active and dominant as much as possible. Whatever you can physically take over and run - do it. Run her entire life if that's what it takes - she might complain but it'll make her wet.

  6. Remember she is essentially a teenage girl. Don't be fooled into thinking she's your 'equal' or on your level. She's not. Any impressions otherwise are just an act.

  7. when she shit tests you, remember she's just acting out - picture her as a child. You need to set firm boundaries and tell her "you are being childish, settle down". That is literally all she wants.

  8. she might say some nasty things - DO NOT react - remember she's just a child. Just be firm and authoritative. She'll apologise later

  9. Even in the tough times MAINTAIN FRAME, I can't stress this enough. It is like the golden rule of success with women. If your frame is solid she will be put at ease.

I ended up losing a woman who would do anything to please me, ANYTHING. My wish was her command. Now I stand, with my life back together, and in my social group I am unrivalled as alpha. I am everything I ever wanted to be as a man - but because of a crazy period in my life and a few months of self doubt I lost her.

When in doubt maintain frame, set firm boundaries, remember she's just a child and alpha the fuck up - you'll save your relationship/marriage.