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if you don't contribute to her masculine decision making process, the two of you will become depolarized by each other's energy. She'll be in the masculine, you'll be neutral, and there will be nobody in the feminine pole. This is fine for short periods of time, but if it becomes chronic, then the two of you will begin to feel like friends rather than lovers. The attractive juiciness of polarity will be replaced by two buddies discussing options.

This is the dreaded "friend zone" so many people have experienced. For attraction and love to sustain, you need to be opposite sides of the magnet, each contributing to your appropriate roles in the relationship dynamic.

If you refuse to offer your masculine gift by saying things like, "I don't really care. It's up to you," then she will have to learn to depend on her own masculine capacity. Another way to say this is that she will begin to trust her own masculine more than yours. Then, you will find that she trusts you less and less across the board. She will refuse to surrender to you even sexually, because she hasn't been able to relax and trust you all day; you haven't offered her your masculine clarity and perspective, so she has to be her own man and give it to herself.

This is a key component why attraction fades, especially in longer term relationships. Once she starts taking on both the male and female roles herself, she'll realize she needs your masculinity less and less. She wants to know that you are decisive, and bring decision-making ability to the relationship. To her, she wants to trust. But not trust you to be a loving teddy bear, but rather trust you to be decisive and lead the relationship in a positive direction. Once she knows that she can follow you, she'll be willing to submit to you.

I'll end with this gem:

However, the point in intimacy is not simply to make the best decision, but to make the best decision while maintaining the force of masculine/feminine polarity that attracted you together to begin with.

The goal isn't always to make the absolute objectively optimal decision despite everything else. You also have to take into account how a given decision will affect the relationship dynamics.