Quick background:

Been talking/ hanging out with this 7/10 girl (21yo) for a month. I knew she was a party girl but she kept saying she’s not looking for a hookup. Thought to myself AWALT but she’s fun to hang out with so let’s see how this goes. She slept over at my place when my parents were out of town and same deal. Said she doesn’t have sex outside of relationships. Nothing happened except making out.

So last night I told her to come by my area and we went to a bar. While there I tried bringing up sex to get her excited and asked her what the craziest thing she’d ever done was. She took this as a sign to tell me everything wild she’s ever done. Some highlights:

• Hooked up in a park with a guy she met at a club for a ride home

• Had sex with a guy in a hotel because he paid for bottles while her friend was hooking up next to her. She called it an ‘orgy’ so I’m sure they switched partners at a point

• Hooked up with a girl in college (I was too stunned to ask if there was a guy involved but I’m sure there was

• Lost virginity at 16 to a guy who was mentally and physically abusive

• Would hook up with any guy who took her home in high school. Slept around A LOT (her words)

• Made out with a bartender in Cuba for free drinks

After all this I was literally speechless. So here I am sitting in the car with her after a fucking make out session like we’re back in high school with her telling me all this yet still saying she doesn't want to hook up outside of relationships anymore. Told me she didn't give her last bf a BJ until 5 months in. At the same time she said she loves sex and talking about sex, just won’t have it unless its in a relationship.

Now I was expecting AWALT and was ready for her to have done some crazy stuff but Jesus fucking Christ. Here I am a 24 year old who just lost his virginity in January and has had sex with one girl. I feel like I am playing in a whole different sport let alone league than this woman. So here’s my questions:

  1. How the fuck do you guys deal with this? Was it as surprising for you as it was for me how much shit these women have done? I feel incredibly intimidated from this.

  2. She’s obviously trying to make me her BB and is withholding sex for a relationship. This girl was brazen enough to tell me she sleeps around but that she will not with me until we get exclusive. Thank god TRP taught me to nope the fuck out of this. The old me would just push the relationship and hope to be rewarded with sex like a good little boy.

I’m thinking of soft nexting and pulling some dread. If/ when she does contact me and ask what’s going on, what should I say? Don’t wanna sound petty or desperate but is there something I can say to get out of the bb zone and still possibly plate this girl?