So I'd like to flesh out this new concept. I always find it easier to analyze a concept once I've written it out.

I've come to realize that I can't apply the same mindset when talking to different kinds of people. Its pretty obvious when you say it, but I found myself mixing up mindsets at the wrong times until I was able to distinguish the appropriate situations.

There are three kinds of mode of talk depending on who you're talking to

1 Authority (Boss, coach, professor, parent, mentor, etc.): Should be talking to these individuals respectfully and humbly.

2 Equals (Close friends): Can talk without guarding yourself. Basically where you say whatever you're thinking. Respect is mutual

3 Junior (Kids, junior people you're taking under your wing): You should act with leadership, looking after the flock.

When you first meet a new person, you should be closer to authority than equals (unless its a kid obviously). This is the kind of strategy seen in Dale Carnegie: How to make friends. Basically, be a good listener, be positive, compliment them. All the coolest and most popular people I've met are very respectful when they first meet you and it moves towards equals where you're both comfortable shit talking each other.

When you meet a girl, you should be equals. If she's more submissive or as the relationship goes on and she naturally becomes more submissive, you should drift towards junior/leadership. Its obvious that you can't put a girl above you. However, its actually also a turnoff for guys to come on too strong and try to take a leadership role immediately. This will work for an insanely attractive guy or a legit celebrity, but even a guy who walks in with tons of social proof won't get a submissive girl off the bat. He'll still have to approach her as equals, flirting, passing shit tests, until the attraction builds. Even after sex the relationship will still be as equals if she's just looking for sex and doesn't get emotionally involved (only met one girl like this. I think its impossible for most girls to not become emotionally attached after sex). But once she's emotionally invested, it starts shifting to leadership. The more emotionally invested, the more leadership you need.

This may sound weird, but that's why acting like an asshole works. First, assholes never put girls on a pedestal. The thing that assholes are the best at is they lead like a muthafucka. They're always in control and they're good at getting others to do what they want. They tend to overdo the leadership and not treat girls as equal enough, because they actually don't care about girls, but this still works for the number games because this strategy works best for the sluttiest girls who are most likely to put out. Its repeated a lot but the sluttiest girls have daddy issues and are emotionally damaged. Paradoxically they are the ones looking the most for leadership and that's why they become submissive and emotionally invested so fast and allow themselves to be disrespected. All girls to some extent want leadership in a relationship, but the more emotionally healthy ones can wait until they find a more stable/higher-quality guy.

It may sound weird describing assholes as having leadership. They have a kind of pseudo-leadership. In the short-term they provide order and stability to those around them because they give direction. But in the long-term they fail to create order and stability because their decisions are bad and so their leadership is harmful to anyone who follows him. But women are pretty bad at spotting it out, unless they're smart or have their mothers and grandmothers steering them away from bad boys.

Also, notice I don't have a "dominant" mindset. That's because all three are dominant mindsets! When you're being respectful to your coach its not because you can't be brash if you want. Its because you're exchanging respect for his advice. Its all coming from a place of abundance.

A lot of the advice on the redpill has been to have a "dominant" mindset with girls. That seems to fall under leadership mostly. Its good advice for betas who come from a place of neediness who need to stop pedalstalizing women. But you shouldn't try to be "dominant" with your boss, you'll get fired. Its not because he's insecure or whatever, but you didn't uphold your part of the bargain which is respect traded for mentorship/rewards. You shouldn't try to be dominant with your friends, you'll just lose them. Why would they hang out with someone trying to lord over them and acting like he's got a stick up his ass. You also shouldn't pull it on women who you haven't warmed up a bit. They'll give you the cold shoulder because "you don't get it". You would do much better walking in and just chatting her up normally, then once she's laughing and emotionally invested in the conversation, bringing in the dominance.

The last mindset I can think of is the "warrior mindset". This is where you AMOG people. This has a time and place. It can be effective in a club to AMOG the other guy talking to the girl. But I think a lot of the "dominant" mindset of the redpill also is describing this warrior mindset. You should never apply the warrior mindset to a girl. All the other mindsets are trying to establish some sort of relationship. The warrior mindset is antisocial. It makes no sense to apply it to a girl. She's not the enemy, you should both be enjoying it. Don't mix leadership with the warrior mindset.