TL;DR I am going through a critical part of my life and the decisions I make now will set the stage for going forward

Since discovering TRP and the manosphere in general I have been successfully improving myself by cultivating outcome independence, removing the need for external validation, lifting, improving my career, social life, family, and women. I have always been slightly redpill in my previous relationships with women due to my upbringing, experiences and general outlook on life; for example I have never been broken up with or cheated on (as far as I know) and practiced plate theory before reading about it. I have seen great improvements to my physique in the last year since taking weightlifting seriously (I have always been muscular but now am really getting jacked at 200lbs at 6'3" and plan on continuing), I have also improved my style and my game, but the greatest changes were internal (frame control, outcome independence, discipline, delay of gratification among others).

Now when I first started reading TRP a lot of the material and core premise resonated with me. I immediately recognized a lot of things as true and even subconsciously knew about many concepts beforehand. AF/BB as an example: I fucked around with a friends mother (MILF) when I was a teenager while she was in the middle of her second divorce to her rich husband and even had to hide from him when he almost caught us fucking in their hot tub. She was my "Mrs. Robinson" and I knew this as AF/BB even back then but had never seen these concepts articulated and explicitly detailed the way they are in the manosphere. I recognize the value of the teachings and theories here and use what I can learn for my personal gain and advantage in all facets of my life.

Now when I first began reading TRP I broke up with my 4.5 year LTR and went no contact. I went wild and wanted to have fun being single and began spinning plates and had a 5 girl rotation, I remember one weekend where I managed to fuck all 5 of them in the span of 3 days. Needless to say it was a great time. However one of the girls (who was a more recent part of my rotation) really stood out to me and was unlike my other plates. She would tell me how guys would hit her up for dates or ask her out (sports games, concerts, etc.) but that she would turn them down since she was seeing someone (me). They would offer to help her with her homework and do shit for her. I would test her in a way and say "oh he sounds so nice, you should let him help you, at least use them to get free shit". She would respond by saying she doesn't do that and would not like to give them the wrong impression and feels bad using men like that (green flag). She had many other positive traits and continues to display them to this day.

As I got to know her better the other plates became boring and I saw how superficial the dynamic was with them. Eventually I dropped them and we entered into an LTR after fooling around for 3 months. It was an easy thing for both of us and was never forced, I didn't have to run through some mental checklist in my head and did it because it felt right and was what I wanted as well. When she told me she loved me I felt the same way and ever since then we've been together (9 months so far). I am 26 years old and she is 25 years old. I have shared many redpill ideas with her and she agrees with them and has a traditional/conservative mindset as well. She has also been spending weekends at my place, and I even stayed with her at her place for 2 weeks while her parents were away. From the short time we spent living together it was great and we go along very well.

Now that you have some context about myself and life experiences as well as this current LTR the next part is important: I have a STEM background and recently received a great job offer to work as an electrical engineer ($80,000 in the hydroelectric industry). I will be starting in the next month. She also recently applied for and accepted a job transfer to work downtown which I do not like at all (she works as a court clerk and earns around $50,000). Now it is obvious why I do not like her working downtown but I have kept my mouth shut so far and have not given her any indication that it bothers me. She currently lives with her parents.

I am planning on moving close to my work and getting an apartment. She really wants to live together and has even been pushing for marriage and talking about kids and how we would decorate our place and do this and that (basically how she would betatize me). Now I really want to have a family and my longterm goal is to have a wife and children. I know times are different compared to our parent's generation but I know from my own upbringing that it takes a husband and wife to really raise children successfully. However my response to my GFs push for marriage and shacking up has always been that I would never move in with a girl who I wouldn't marry and I would only want to marry a girl I wanted to have a family with. Furthermore, as a priori I would not even contemplate marraige/family until I am well established as a man (career, life experience, personality, etc.)

Now here is a list of good and bad things about my current LTR

green flags:

  • Been in only two long term relationships before me 2 years and 4.5 years respectively
  • Low partner count at 4 before me (almost 100% bullshit since AWALT, I even told her when she volunteered this information that I would rather she not say then lie to me but she insisted. There is also strong evidence to believe her, not from her words but from my experience with her and fact checking through her old email and facebook history. Trust but verify)
  • Saved money from work for herself and does not spend frivolously
  • Comes from a stable family with traditional values of marriage and a strict upbringing
  • Is pleasant and feminine, has long term goal of starting a family and being a mother as her priority
  • Has a good group of friends and does not keep in contact with ex's and has very few guy friends and only hangs out with them in a group setting with me present (I don't insist on this but she makes it a point for it to be this way)
  • Does not go drinking without me and when she does she barely drinks
  • She recently removed her social media, explaining that she does not want to waste time creeping others and have others creeping and knowing intimate details about her life

red flags:

  • I met her through Tinder (I know it's a classic no-go for LTR material, but my experience with other women and her behavior tell me otherwise, she used them for attention and had sex with one guy. She broke things off with that guy before seeing me. She even volunteered to show me their chats and history and all of this was verified)
  • Is an only child and feels entitled to special treatment just because (throughout our LTR I have basically had to beat her mentally into submission at times when she would become demanding/bitchy/moody/etc.) She would always appreciate it after the fact but I take it as a bad sign
  • Works tirelessly to betatize me (pushing for living together, marriage, kids etc.)

I am overall very happy with our relationship with some minor annoyances however no one is perfect including me and I accept that I will never find the perfect girl but still choose to pursue this. I would like to keep this going but I will not be pressured into doing something I am not yet ready for. I am just starting my career and am not ready for marriage or children for at least several more years. However she is already 25 and feels the clock ticking.

My plan is this: I will move into an apartment but will have everything under my name. She will be welcome to stay over if she would like but all of it will be handled by me. In this way if she ever does something I deem unacceptable I can always kick her ass out and she can go back to her parents.

My questions are the following:

  • What would you advise a young professional like myself to do in this situation? Am I being naive by thinking her staying is okay since I would handle all the cost of living and can kick her out?

  • Should I not even let her stay at my new place? I know she will try more and more to push herself in there. I have no doubt she will offer to pay half the rent, decorate the place, nesting and everything else.

  • Wouldn't this basically be like living together? Does it make a difference if I have everything under my name and she just stays over or can I still get fucked over if shit goes south?

  • Should I voice my disapproval of her seeking a job downtown? She wanted to transfer since she hated her current workplace as her boss was a serial cheater and there was a toxic environment (government work).

  • Should I be explicit and state everything including my concerns and distaste for her pressuring me into something I am not yet ready for? So far I have been vague and covert with my answers and this has been okay for now but I feel this will need to be addressed in the near future as we are both changing work situations.

If any of you have previous experience or stories that would be invaluable too. This topic is very important to me and I would really appreciate any advice you guys would have for me. I apologize for the long post but also wrote this as a way of cataloging my thoughts and listing my concerns.

Thank you.

EDIT: Typos