I just don't care anymore

RemyPrice · 2015-09-12T01:20:33+00:00

Now that you don't care, make it into a game.

[deleted] · 2015-09-11T19:03:52+00:00

Realize that you will only be happy if you can be happy on your own. Learn to master your mind while improving your body. Set goals to accomplish, and realize dreams.

Only when you figure out how to not need women are you going to be able to get one and keep her

dreckmal · 2015-09-11T19:27:48+00:00

I want a woman in my life that I can connect with emotionally. A woman that I find physically pleasing (doesn't have to be a 10) but someone I find physically attractive and not just okay.

I thought I wanted a girl to connect with emotionally too. turns out, that was an incorrect expression of 'equality' in my own head. Women don't emotion like we do, dawg.

They don't have the depth we do. My happiness is a much more powerful drug than her's is. Women want to experience the 'range' of emotion, not the depth.

Unfortunately, when you start revealing your soft emotional core, she will see you for less of a man. Note: I am not saying it makes you less of a man, but in her eyes, your utility drops.

London-Bananas · 2015-09-12T11:19:47+00:00

Honestly man your intro sounded like the first 20 of my life, minus the hooker. I was in LTRs with girls because I thought I had no other option. I liked them, but deep down I knew they weren't right for me. Some where very clingy, some crazy, others boring.

A breaking point in this whole thing was shortly before I found TRP. I saw how my dad has lead a normal, boring life, never took any risk and I think he regrets it. I thought fuck it one day the sun will swallow the earth or we will nuke ourselves into oblivion or people will simply forgot who I ever was, and it will all have been a fucking joke. That put me on a path of taking more risk. Note the difference between taking a risk and gambling, when it comes to life I'm simply not a high roller, I like to take things easier but not because I'm scared, but because I like it that way.

So somewhere TRP pops up, and it fulfilled the promises of sluts, of sex, of social development it made. Not that I cared much about that but it was something else for good measure. What really got to me was the idea of being happy on your own. If you love your life in full independence, you'll never have to be scared. If you can retreat inside yourself, you'll never need to run away. That concept was so radical it topples my world view. The reason people have wives and kids and houses and mortgages isn't because that makes them happy. It's because they're scared of being alone, because solitude is their mortal enemy. When a man signs a marriage or mortgage he isn't advancing in life. He's simply signing away the need to be happy in his own for a significant but certain misery. He'll never have to worry a day in his life again, only about petty things like payments and picking up kids. It's the easy way out and guaranteed to keep you distracted until the day you die.

But anyways I ditches all the sluts or "plates" (I never really liked or understood that word) because I wanted what you want: to have what you call an emotional connection. I didn't set out to search it but I did find it. She really was just some girl standing by herself at a party and I thought fuck it and went over to talk only because I wanted to. Well before you know it a day turns into a month and a month into a year and I make her my girlfriend. Small town girl she is, short and cute though not hot or spectacular looking, has a M. Sc. in biology, has what must be the first genuine girl friend group I've ever seen, and she still goes on holidays with her parents and older brother. Every day I saw her I liked her more.

I know TRP is quick to jump the gun on women and say they're all evil, and I guess as former betas we've seen the worst of women, but I lost that belief some time ago. I did believe it wholeheartedly when I was sleeping with fwbs and sluts and looking back I see why. If you actively seek out to associate with the most useless, skanky and mental women you can find, that'll be the impression you have.

I like women, they have their quirks and they cry for seemingly no reason sometimes but they give me a warm feeling from the inside and if you know the pitfalls and red flags it will feel like crossing a minefield but this time you're driving a 50 ton minesweeper.

I need to stop rambling, and the takeaway message is do whatever you want but make sure it's what you really want and not what you think you should want. For some people fucking sluts is the ultimate life goal, good on them. For other's it's having kids, it's their own choice. For me it's not having kids ever, seeing as much of the world and of life as I can and maybe I'll do it together with some people if I want to.

Abreseyes · 2015-09-12T23:48:42+00:00

When you say scared of trying In school was it a case of beimg scared to put in 100% because if you fail there will be no excuse to hide behind? Where if you do the assignment the night before and get an ok mark you can rationalise that you're intelligent but lazy?

I think I have the same problem

RPmatrix · 2015-09-12T10:17:55+00:00

I rather get rejected than having to put 30 minutes to a hour of effort thinking of some response I think would be perfect

Good, keep it up and practice RP philosophy

Title	I just don't care anymore
Author	doesnotcompute11
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	September 11, 2015 6:55 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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