Did I maintain proper frame?:

  • Last night went out to gathering at a bar
  • Vaped strong weed before going in
  • 20-30 minutes inside the atmosphere is eating my soul (country music)
  • Decide to chill out back at my car for a long while
  • Told my friends girl (ex meth/speedhead and at least hung with prostitutes if not one hereself) that I'm done with the weed for the night but if she's down she can smoke the rest remaining in my vape after she drops hints about weed
  • Go back to my car alone
  • 30 Min later she comes to my car with a random dude who was at our table whom I don't know
  • Opens my passenger door and begins talking etc
  • Dropping hints constantly about the weed saying "if I had known you were coming out tonight I would have packed properly"
  • I say nothing in response
  • It goes from chatting about nothing to dropping hints about the weed 3-5 times, with me saying nothing each time
  • Eventually they start walking away and she's trying to guilt trip saying "The offer is always open if you want to come back for drinking you can crash at our house", "Yeah it's not like some people are totally offended or anything"
  • I say nothing
  • Left shortly after that with friends

If she had walked up alone to the side of the vehicle, I would have opened the door and told her to come in, offering her the weed without hesitation. It was the fact that she brought a random guy with her that I considered mucho disrespect. In her eyes I must be a beta, that she thinks she can disrespect an I'll just cave. She probably thought bringing an extra guy that I'd be such a pushover I'd just accept it and give him free weed.

The other thing is the way she was asking too. She would talk about it by saying "Yeah something something SMOKE" as if she were trying to say certain keywords so I'd be the one to say "Hey want that weed?". I found it disrepectful she couldn't just ask me directly. I didn't need to cause a scene and frankly I don't owe her an explanation why my mind had changed.

This may seem trivial but maintaining frame against this woman is huge for me when the beta I was before would do almost anything to just even be 2ft from any girl.