Looking for answers from experienced plate spinners.

Currently I am having great luck with the ladies and have several active partners on the go. However, I do realize that eventually you're like the cat with paws on too many mice and not only is it a bit of a time sink might have to deal with drama eventually.

I'd like to get things a bit more streamlined as I feel I'd be happy with about three regular women in rotation. First question is that I'm assuming anyone who doesn't make the cut just gets a soft next? I've already done this with a couple but sometimes they don't get the hint.

Is three women too many, would you stick with two solid ones and just alternate them? Or do you spin more and just not care if they fall? I'm not worried at all about finding new ones but I do have two currently that I would prefer to keep around because they check all my boxes.

Thanks in advance for any insight and what has worked for you, especially the older guys.