So long story short I have known this girl for fifteen years since we were in college together. We were friends and hung out a lot with other people but nothing physical. One drunken night she grabbed me, we made out and almost had sex - while she had a boyfriend. I was totally shocked at the time because she gave no IOI's at all. I tried to escalate another time and she shut me down. Ever since then I was basically an orbiter blue pill idiot although I did try a couple of more times to escalate things years later and always got shot down.

She lives in my city but I had ignored her for a long time, and out of the blue she contacted me a couple of weeks ago after learning about my separation and we went out for lunch. She has a boyfriend that is a miner and is away for two weeks every month. Two days ago she texted me asking if I wanted to come over for "movie night" on Saturday. She has already also told me she's planning on breaking up with him soon, so she's looking to branch swing for sure at this stage. She is completely post wall, late 30's and poor job but still about an 8 on the looks scale.

Now that my self confidence is higher and I have much more of an IDGAF attitude, I made sure to tell her she was second choice as I had a tentative date, which has fallen through so I might as well see what happens with her. She knows I'm actively dating and have abundance.

So I really want to seduce her. The thing is she likely still sees me as that orbiter, but I also know that there's some sexual tension built up over years. I'm thinking that if I run hard game at her I can just see what happens, I have no care if I lose her as a friend or whatever. However she is a solid 8 and I'd love to just be able to tell myself I finally got to bang her after fifteen years.

So if you were a former orbiter who finally conquered that person you had been orbiting for so long, how did you do it? Or if anyone else has good strategies I'm all ears.