Every single relationship I've been in college has been this: I act like you should act with the girl, meaning I initiate the first contact then try to put minimal effort and let her do the pursuing. Then, idk why every single time I catch feels at the second or third week and start to act like a little bitch, a beta bitch. And then I start putting her on a pedestal and trying to win her over. I know the girl can sense this. But its like I constantly think about her even when i'm dating other girls. (which I always try to have abundance.) So, i'm always gaming multiple girls. But sure enough there is always one girl I just over pursue. I usually then try to have sex with the girl. She's not down. Then I try doubly hard. She starts to pick up that I'm being needy and thinks I'm just trying to have sex with her. So, then she starts testing me by not replying right away to my texts or not picking up when I call. Then, I overact and start chasing her. Until eventually she just doesn't respond at all.

It's honestly really embarrassing after the fact. It's like there is this spell over me to act this way. Like i'm almost out of body third person acting like this BB shell of me. I tell myself every time after it happens "Wow I would never have acted like that in hindsight." But sure enough I do. My best friend always just shakes his head in disbelief how I can go 0-100 on the bitch scale.

tld;dr I seem to get oneitis really, really bad even when dating multiple girls. I over pursue and in the end make myself look like a jackass.

And I'm asking asktrp: What should I do? Every time i'm with a new girl. I tell myself "i'm not going to do this. do you remember what happened last time?" Then sure enough I do it regardless. It's like I'm almost incapable learning from my mistakes in a certain sense.