tldr; She doesn't want to see you weak. She doesn't want to hear you bitch. Be a closed book about your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Learn to shut the flying fuck up.
Introduction:
I’m seeing an awful lot of mainstream advice telling men to "open up" to women and be “vulnerable” and unafraid to appear “weak” around her.
Do not listen to this advice, I repeat, do not listen to this advice. You will fuck yourself over so fast it's not even funny.
Body:
You remember Briffault’s Law?
Briffault’s Law: The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.
Think about the following for a second: What's the benefit of associating with a weak man? What's the benefit of associating with a man that's "vulnerable" and "pours his heart out" to her?
Newsflash: She doesn’t care about you, your problems, or your existential angst, she only cares about what you can do for her. If you do something that lowers your possible use in her eyes or something out of the ordinary which changes her perception of your utility for the worse, you fucked up.
B-b-but Scepter! Something tragic happened to me! I need to vent, I need to unwind!
If you need to ugly cry, go to your room, lock the door, and let that shit out. If you merely need to vent or rant, hit up a dude you trust or take out your journal and write away.
Women are incapable of seeing a man at his worst because it’s biologically disadvantageous to see a weak man and approve of it. Imagine being a female ape seeing a weak male ape with a defeated posture. You really think that female ape is gonna fuck that beta ape? Hell no, she’s gonna fuck the big strong gorilla a few paces away beating his chest because he looks useful.
No woman on planet earth has ever said the following:
“God, that man over there crying his eyes out because his father died is so fucking hot. I’m gonna suck his dick and swallow his children.”
Or
“Babe, I love it when you bitch and complain about work. It turns me on. Fuck me in the ass.”
When you actually apply this concept and refuse to show a weak emotion and stop bitching you will get tested like there’s no tomorrow. For example, I was on a date and the woman said seemingly out of nowhere...
“I feel like I’m your enemy, do you even like me? You never tell me anything..."
I pulled her close to me and kissed her on the forehead. She eased up and latched on to me like a lost child. The silence and stoicism intimidated her so much that she ate up the affection like a fat bitch eating cake.
She did it again later.
"Why do you have your walls up? Why are you acting strange? What's going on?"
I smiled and hugged her tightly. She hugged me back as tightly as possible, so tight it was hard to breathe. Crisis averted twice without saying a word.
The worst thing you could do when tested like this is backtrack and begin opening up to a woman and showing your “vulnerable side.” In doing so you expose your weak frame AND let her know your weaknesses.
Takeaways:
If you’re going through something tragic, go take care of your shit away from your women. Don’t let them see you weak. They will remember it and it will change their perception of you for the worst.
When tested for being too “cold” or “distant” be sure to give them physical affection. Anything else will be questioned and doubted.
Do not show your “vulnerable side” even if she asks you to.
Never let her see you bleed.
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