Went out with this girl who works at a business I occasionally go to. Had a fun first date, we were clicking, and then went back to her place and ended up fucking. Before we had sex, she pulled what I thought was typical last minute resistance:

“I don’t know if we should the first night, cause then there’s nothing to look forward to after, and I’ll feel pressured to have sex every time after this, something similar happened with someone else kinda recently and I don’t want to do that again, blah blah blah.”

I played my cards right and we ended up doing it anyway. About a week goes by and I propose plans for a second date. She agrees then texts me the morning of saying she’s sick and doesn’t think she’ll be a good time. I say no worries feel better.

I don’t contact her the following week. Then the week after I text her on Friday about plans for Sunday. She doesn’t respond. I forget about it.

Anyway, I went back to that business yesterday and she was there. She was friendly, we were joking around and laughing, and she apologized for not responding. I told her I honestly forgot about it. I said I don’t care, and I really didn’t, but also asked why she didn’t respond.

She said she just didn’t want to hang out after yoga (my plan) and she felt like it was moving too fast and she felt like she did something she kinda regretted. I asked why, and she said something like “I don’t know, I just don’t want to feel pressured into doing something after and maybe having to say no, so I just avoided responding.”

I was essentially like “alright yeah do whatever you want. Well let me if you want to hang out again.” Then she said she does want to hang out again and she’ll respond next time. Keep in mind this is all with a playful tone and mixed in with some joking / teasing about other shit.

My question is what the fuck is she talking about? I’m just curious what’s going on in her head. Anyone have any ideas? She might have some kind of mental illness. I don’t know what’s wrong with her but she’s mentioned her therapist enough times that’s it’s a red flag. Anyone have any guesses what’s going on here? Don’t need this girl and won’t think twice if I never see her again. Mainly just curious.