I've heard a very blue pill woman in my office say this over and over, and it represents a very common view people have about relationships. I heard it again just now and I have to say this mindset drives me nuts!

"When you have a comfy relationship, you stop needing to take care of yourself". No. Never think this. It's so counter-intuitive, all I hear is that you don't feel like putting effort into your relationship while still expecting it to remain the same. That's crazy.

You can't water a flower a few times and then never again, as soon as you stop, it will die. Never never never stop putting in effort to your relationship or it will die!

It's easy to fall into that habit of laziness, and it's totally fine to rest every now and then. Put on a cute shirt and some sweat pants (or no pants? He might enjoy that), lie around and watch netflix. Everyone needs a rest.

It's also just as easy to put on some mascara, brush your hair and put on a comfy, cute dress. Daily workouts can be as short as fifteen minutes. He will notice and be grateful to have you, and I bet you will feel good too. I love knowing I look nice.

The effort you put in now is going to pay off in the future! Always do the best you can and never give up.

I wanted this to just be a quick thing, so no more rambling - back to work!