This is about that reading this sub while being informative will not change your behavior. And ultimately thats what matters. I learned an important lesson about that yesterday.

For context I have to say i recently had a talk with my GF about how I don't like her going to clubs when she is out with female friend(s) which are married or LTRs.

Yesterday she went for dinner with work-colleagues. I stayed at home. Thats what I normally do. Then at about 10 pm she calls me from her cell. She basically directly asks what I am doing. And I tell the truth. I'm watching TV. IMHO this immediately shifted the power balance to her. She then goes on to tell she is waiting for the bus on her way to the her parents. The content of the call was all in all pretty boring.

But after it I started thinking. First she has never ever called me from her phone when being out (or on her way home). She has called after going out from home and also form her parents. So she could have just waited ten minutes and called me from a her parents (for free, no background noise, more comfortable). It could be a good thing(could not wait to hear my voice) or a bad one.

Second anomaly was the fact she was using the bus. She hates public transport and drives basically everywhere. She said one of the co-workers drove to the restaurant. Perfectly plausible. But then she has pointed out the restaurant they were supposedly going to which is in walking distance from the work place. She was also drunk. She talked way louder than normally and she confirmed it.

A possible conclusion is that she was just fishing for information what I was doing, where I was or ultimately if it is safe to go out to a club with the co-workers or if she could walk into me. Couple days earlier she mentioned that the others will go out after dinner but she will go home. And then she calls me "look I'm on my way home".

This might be entirely true and she was trying to prove to be a nice girl. Or she was lying and trying to get away with it. Also she sometimes complains about one of the male co-workers. And what is the saying? First they complain about him and then they sleep whit him. Or something like that. All in all this sounds all very pathetic and I'm kind of angry at my self for letting this happen.

When I see her toady I will try to get some more information like were they went for dinner and so forth to see if there are any contradictions. She made it in my head and I need to clear it up.

And now to the actual conclusion. I would not have thought about this call at all would I have been out with friends. Because then I would not have had time to do so and might have even missed the call. Especially the later would be very nice dread game and I would not even have a bad conscious about it. So next she is out with friends, I will go out as well and not stay home alone.