Fair warning: I'm not much of a writer and I sat on this for awhile but Katy Perry brought it back to my mind so bare with me if it's all over the place.
http://www.donotlink.com/b02h
It's 2014 and men are disposable. Old news for those who have been here for awhile. Welcome to the real world.
You read the same thing on this subreddit everyday and for good reason. Get fit, get financially stable and get your mind on point. Pillars of success inside and outside the mating strategy. But I'm not here to reiterate the fine points that Johnny Green should already have read. Truthfully, everyone should have read the links at least twice if not more. So what's the point of this thread? Pee-Wee says today's secret word is.....acceptance.
I get it. The angry phase is a bitch. When the veil you've been living under comes off, the opportunity to point and yell at the hypergamy in plain view is very tempting. It's understandable. Before you even take another step forward, you need to understand one thing. No one gives a fuck. She doesn't care, I don't care and neither should you. To you the feeling is very real but to everyone else you're just another chump. If you want to get ahead in life, relationships or otherwise, you need to learn how to stay progressive regardless of how it makes you feel.
The thing that had me by the balls during the angry phase was the sunk cost fallacy. I spent so much time in my life trying to play it safe that I didn't realize I was digging myself a hole. I wanted back everything I invested with interest. My issue growing up was always being told by family and friends that I wasn't good enough. Anything I didn't do was the worst thing in the world and anytime I did right, well it's what should have happened in the first place so who cares. That was a good and bad thing. Good because even to this day I still have this mentality to go above and beyond when I want to accomplish something. Lazy is not in my vocabulary. It was bad for me because I naturally put everyone else on a pedestal. Every man was better than me and every woman was out of my league. Growing up under two alpha parents didn't help. My mother was the type that told an AFC to stop acting like a bitch. My father has a Superbowl ring. Enough said.
Strangely, I swallowed the pill before I came here many months ago. I snapped out of it when my life wasn't going anywhere. I was tired of caring. I had followed everyone's advice and it took me nowhere in life. In that moment of self-loathing, suffering from panic-attacks, underweight and feeling like a loser, I said two magical words. Fuck it. Fuck what they think. Fuck how they feel. Fuck what's going to happen. Time to get mine. No one is going to pay your bills. No one is going to make you feel unconditional love. You can either let yourself become a victim or move on. Friends, family, girlfriends, coworkers, they don't give a shit. Not how you think they do. It's about you make them feel.
I know some of you will largely disagree with me but let me assure you that this is not me crying because I feel I got screwed over. I made peace with my life. This is me telling you what no one told me. My mother only wanted me to be successful so she could leech off of me since she's 60+ and single. Can't hold down a relationship to save her life even though she still has orbiters. (She's a 60 that looks 40.) My father wanted me to follow in his footsteps so he could say that I did. Once it was clear that I was going my own path he checked out of my life. We speak maybe 3 or 4 times a year. I don't have the patience anymore to accept anyone's bullshit. Male or female. It's fuck or walk. Are you here to contribute? Good. If not than go waste someone else's time. We're disposable anyway. No matter how much I contribute to this sub, I can be banned tomorrow. No matter how much hamster ass you kiss, you're one bad remark from being labeled a misogynist. Even worse, misogynist by association.
I never needed anyone's help. I just needed guidance. Never needed a role model. Just needed advice. I'll take it from there. That is the foundation of masculinity. "Hell or high water, we're getting this shit done." I don't care about what some bullshit a fem site came up with today. I don't care about your rant. I don't care about some science study that confirms RPT for the 100th time. I don't care about your field report that just shows you have a lot of work still ahead of you. Have I been guilty of some of these in the past? Of course. We all have at some point. It doesn't matter now. It's recognized, corrected and filed for future reference. Just like every other aspect of my life.
I want to leave this on a positive note. I'm just going to leave this right here for the punks.
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Checked to see if this has already been touched on and it more or less has in various forms.
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