23F: "I decided to use a new approach to my current relationship. I decided to be completely honest [with her current 23M boyfriend about her sexual history]. I have now learned this was a mistake."

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax/2014/04/18/898e82ce-b9bb-11e3-9a05-c739f29ccb08_story.html

His reaction was what you would expect considering that "I won’t try something with him in the bedroom that he knows I did with someone else."

There are a few things I want to point out though:

• it's all about her, her, her. This is why she told him in the first place. To feel better.
• there is no concern for what he might have felt when she told him
• she wants to know she can change the dude so that she feels better
• the obvious solution (do at least one of those things with him) does not come up. Why?
• the female columnist agrees "he is the one who has to get past it" and validates her some more
  
• the columnist shames the bf: he is not mature enough, is threatened, needs to "grow up" or she should break up with him
  

I need to point out here that men react the same regardless of age, maybe even the reaction is stronger as men mature (because more life has been wasted on an illusion). So this columnist's shaming of his immaturity is just false.

Epilogue: In a later chat the 23F responds to people who wanted her to destroy her relationship. Turns out the bf folded and treats her like a princess.

Conclusion: The columnist approached the problem from the point of view of the female sex cartel. Her "solution" was in the interest of women as a group but not in the interest of the girl. She told the 23F to destroy her relationship (something that was of high value to her) and take one for the female team so that men learn the lesson never to question a woman's past or to use it do demand better sexual gratification.

This was yet another case of saving the best.